Pretty, Petty, and Particular: The Politics of Preference

Featured Cocktail: Pineapple Upside Down Henny
#shoutout to @milkandhoney_dmv for blessing the culture.

This week, we’re stirring up one of the spiciest topics in queer dating: preferences.
Not the cute ones like “I like someone who can cook.”
We mean the heavyweight ones that shape how people see you, swipe on you, and decide whether you’re “their type”… or not.

Across the digital streets where “no fats / no fems” still hides behind “just my preference,” we’re breaking down how desire gets tangled up with body image, gender expression, and the social scripts we’ve all inherited. Some folks call it taste. Plenty of it is politics.

We’re sipping and unpacking:
• How body type labels shape desirability in queer communities
• The difference between preference, type, and plain old bias
• Why attraction isn’t as apolitical as people claim
• How desire gets molded by culture long before we think we’re choosing
• What it looks like to interrogate your preferences without shaming yourself
• And why some folks are granted visibility while others get erased

Using insights from Everyday Feminism’s deep dive on desire and oppression, we’re asking the real question:
Are your preferences truly yours… or were they handed to you?

The Cocktail: Pineapple Upside Down Henny

Tastes like a vacation. Hits like a truth bomb.

Ingredients:
• Hennessy VS
• Pineapple juice
• Lemonade
• Honey
• Cinnamon sugar (for a rim that does not come to play)

How to make it:
Warm your honey and dress the rim like you’re styling it for a soft-launch photo. Shake your Henny, pineapple juice, and lemonade with enough confidence to scare your ex. Pour it over ice. Drizzle a little honey on top if you need to feel expensive.

This episode is for the folks who want to love with intention, examine their desires, and sip something sweet while dragging their own biases into the sunlight.

The truth tastes better with Henny anyway.