you just need to change your mindset a lil, and everything in 2026 will fall into place

I’m finally back after a little hiatus!! and tbhh, this episode is all about the mindset shift that helped me step back into my main character era in 2025. This year challenged me, isolated me, rebuilt me, and honestly pushed me into a whole new level of confidence and alignment.In this episode, I’m sharing the exact shifts that helped me lock back in:✨ Rewiring my mindset✨ Using my ambition + “perfectionism” as a superpower✨ Letting go of taking everything personally✨ Choosing better content, music, people, and habits✨ Creating a reality where I actually feel like the main character again✨ And of course… keeping the LOLs while leveling upIf you’re entering 2026 ready to reinvent yourself, raise your standards, and step into a version of you who is confident, self-aware, delusional-in-a-good-way, and fully locked in… this is your episode.Thank you for supporting me, for being patient, and for sticking with me through this chaotic time of year, ilyy!!! Let’s lock in together sis. Enjoy!!MY NEW WEBSITE!! Shop merch, sign up for my newsletter, book a coffee chat, & more: http://stellaraeherself.comGet $1000 off the health coach certification program I'm doing with promo code STELLACOACHING https://www.shareasale.com/u.cfm?d=1281553&m=96296&u=1030263I edit using Riverside! https://www.riverside.fm/?utm_campaign=campaign_5&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_source=rewardful&via=stella-holtshop my new glo up merch!! https://stellarae.myspreadshop.com/instagram http://instagram.com/stellaraepodcastlisten to and/or support the podcast: https://anchor.fm/stella-raetiktok: http://tiktok.com/@stellaraeherselftwitter: http://twitter.com/stellaraegoodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/10449999-stella-raemy fav books/products/health: https://www.amazon.com/shop/stellaraemy current filming set up:camera: https://amzn.to/4cEQiLOmicrophone: https://amzn.to/3Z2A5gctripod: https://amzn.to/3AEmxgKring light: https://amzn.to/3XxZrShbox lights: https://amzn.to/4e1Q1Ubportable light for phone: https://amzn.to/3XxZspjjoin my patreon for ad-free episodes, early access, merch discounts, behind the scenes, & more! https://www.patreon.com/stellaraepodlisten on spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2DMbeh7EqiqgROIjvW0sI9listen on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-stella-rae-podcast/id1255618182

00:00 – I’m back + my mission for 2026
00:40 – Why “dream self” culture is a trap
01:30 – Ambition, perfectionism & rewriting the narrative
02:30 – Oldest daughter energy + striving without hating yourself
04:00 – My 2025: isolation, rebuilding, trusting the process
06:00 – Leveling up your mindset to match your goals
06:45 – “In your fantasy you’re a loser?” meme explained
07:30 – Stop talking down on yourself
08:45 – How content, music & your algorithm change your reality
10:40 – Getting stuck in negative dating content
11:20 – Reprogramming your subconscious for success
12:55 – Change feels uncomfortable — and why that’s good
14:20 – Rewiring your brain & noticing opportunities
15:00 – Locking in without losing the LOLs
16:00 – When you need discipline vs. when you need fun
17:00 – Stop taking everything personally (it’s freeing)
18:15 – Dating mindset: detaching from men’s behavior
19:30 – People’s reactions aren’t about you
20:10 – “Real recognize real” energy
20:55 – Power feels like nothing: privilege, upgrades, leveling up
22:00 – Why your accomplishments stop feeling big
23:00 – Gym glow-up example
23:50 – Being the main character in your actual life
24:30 – Storytime: the man, the spill, the comb-over
26:40 – His reaction + the gentleman who replaced him
28:50 – Why I don’t feel bad (standards matter)
30:00 – Mercury retrograde, podcast chaos, audio issues
31:40 – End-of-year burnout vibes
32:20 – Thinking about moving uploads to Mondays
33:10 – Final thoughts + send me last-episode ideas#StellaRaePodcast