Conflict Affects Sex and Sex Affects Conflict. Uncut with Sexologist Lucille Shackleton
Life Uncut27 Helmi 2025

Conflict Affects Sex and Sex Affects Conflict. Uncut with Sexologist Lucille Shackleton

Lucille Shackleton is a sexologist and relationship therapist who has just released her debut book titled “All In”.

When Lucille was working with couples as a therapist, most of the training that she had done said ‘if the friendship is good the sex will be good’ but this didn’t seem to be the case in practice. So Lucille went and did a masters of sexology to figure out what some of the missing pieces to the ‘good sex’ puzzle were. One particular puzzle piece that we wanted to unpack with Lucille was how much conflict affected libido and desire.

We unpack:

  • The love lust split
  • Why referring to your partner as ‘mummy’ or ‘daddy’ (not in that way) can make you both stop desiring each other
  • The question of ‘do you not want sex?’ or ‘are you not having sex that you actually want?’
  • Figuring out your sex values
  • Relationship satisfaction goes up when people learn that their ‘problems’ are normal, even if they aren’t having more sex
  • The ‘narratives’ that we create about our partners & ‘core negative’ images
  • Does intention matter when it comes to conflict?
  • How much our ego comes into play during conflict
  • Sex life after giving birth
  • When one partner has a dry spell or ‘shuts up shop’ and doesn’t want sex anymore

You can find more from Lucille at her Instagram
Grab her new book

You can watch us on Youtube

Find us on Instagram

Join us on tiktok

Or join the Facebook Discussion Group

Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jaksot(875)

72.  My boyfriend can't make me orgasm... Therapy Thursday

72. My boyfriend can't make me orgasm... Therapy Thursday

Yikes is it therapy Thursday again already!? Our quick, down and dirty ep is here and on today’s menu we have: A listeners crush has just jumped ship and is now boning her friend.... Yikes! A deep, so...

28 Loka 202031min

WE WERE ON A BREAK! Is it a soft fade or can you salvage it?

WE WERE ON A BREAK! Is it a soft fade or can you salvage it?

In the words of Ross and Rachel, WE WERE ON A BREAK!Lifers, there’s going to come a time in most of our lives where we feel unsettled, uncomfortable, suffocated, anxious and maybe just a little confus...

26 Loka 20201h 22min

Society... SCREW YOUR TIMELINE!

Society... SCREW YOUR TIMELINE!

"Your age doesn’t determine if you can be successful, and your bank account doesn’t determine if you are happy."Today we are talking timeline pressures, career changes and running your own race!But be...

21 Loka 20201h 11min

UNCUT WITH MATTY J - A mans perspective!

UNCUT WITH MATTY J - A mans perspective!

Happy Tuesday Lifers! This week because Laura has been severely unwell and hasn’t been able to get out of bed we’ve had to mix it up a little and do the old switcheroo! So today we are bringing you ‘a...

19 Loka 202041min

SEEING GREEN - The Jealous type

SEEING GREEN - The Jealous type

It’s Tuesday lifers! And we are taking a walk with the green eyed monster. But first we are unpacking you most hilarious Bumble online dating stories thanks to todays sponsor - you guessed it Bumble!C...

12 Loka 20201h 12min

67. THERAPY THURSDAY - ASK UNCUT

67. THERAPY THURSDAY - ASK UNCUT

Therapy Thursday lifers!Our short, sharp and sometimes sexy question session.We have one girl in a long term relationship that feels their sex Life isn’t enough.. should she leave?Where do single peop...

9 Loka 202035min

Sister Bachelorettes & Bondi's dating app predator

Sister Bachelorettes & Bondi's dating app predator

Happy Tuesday guys! We have a bloody big episode for you today with back to back interviews!First up we have the first ever Bachelorette sisters Elly and Becky Miles! We get to know the girls, chat em...

5 Loka 20201h 10min

65. Thirsty Thursday - ASK UNCUT

65. Thirsty Thursday - ASK UNCUT

It’s Therapy Thursday lifers!Gosh it comes around quick doesn’t it! We hope you’ve had a more exciting week than we have this week! Britt almost dated Zac Efron but didn’t because Laura forgot to tell...

1 Loka 202035min

Suosittua kategoriassa Yhteiskunta

olipa-kerran-otsikko
i-dont-like-mondays
siita-on-vaikea-puhua
gogin-ja-janin-maailmanhistoria
kolme-kaannekohtaa
poks
antin-palautepalvelu
sita
aikalisa
mamma-mia
kaksi-aitia
yopuolen-tarinoita-2
rss-palmujen-varjoissa
meidan-pitais-puhua
rss-murhan-anatomia
rss-ootsa-kuullut-tasta
rss-nikotellen
ootsa-kuullut-tasta-2
terapeuttiville-qa
mystista