Conflict Affects Sex and Sex Affects Conflict. Uncut with Sexologist Lucille Shackleton
Life Uncut27 Helmi 2025

Conflict Affects Sex and Sex Affects Conflict. Uncut with Sexologist Lucille Shackleton

Lucille Shackleton is a sexologist and relationship therapist who has just released her debut book titled “All In”.

When Lucille was working with couples as a therapist, most of the training that she had done said ‘if the friendship is good the sex will be good’ but this didn’t seem to be the case in practice. So Lucille went and did a masters of sexology to figure out what some of the missing pieces to the ‘good sex’ puzzle were. One particular puzzle piece that we wanted to unpack with Lucille was how much conflict affected libido and desire.

We unpack:

  • The love lust split
  • Why referring to your partner as ‘mummy’ or ‘daddy’ (not in that way) can make you both stop desiring each other
  • The question of ‘do you not want sex?’ or ‘are you not having sex that you actually want?’
  • Figuring out your sex values
  • Relationship satisfaction goes up when people learn that their ‘problems’ are normal, even if they aren’t having more sex
  • The ‘narratives’ that we create about our partners & ‘core negative’ images
  • Does intention matter when it comes to conflict?
  • How much our ego comes into play during conflict
  • Sex life after giving birth
  • When one partner has a dry spell or ‘shuts up shop’ and doesn’t want sex anymore

You can find more from Lucille at her Instagram
Grab her new book

You can watch us on Youtube

Find us on Instagram

Join us on tiktok

Or join the Facebook Discussion Group

Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jaksot(875)

The revenge body workout

The revenge body workout

Revenge body, breakup bod, divorce Glow up...You’ve heard the terms before, and thanks to Adele posting an innocent pic on Instagram and the media jumping all over it like a hot rash after a jog, the ...

11 Touko 202046min

ASK UNCUT - HELP! My ex has moved on faster than Usain bolt

ASK UNCUT - HELP! My ex has moved on faster than Usain bolt

Can I dump my boyfriend over text?My ex has moved on faster than Usain bolt and I’m still over here hurtingI’ve been cheated on in every relationship (both emotionally and physically) how can I distin...

7 Touko 202024min

What's your SITUATIONSHIP?

What's your SITUATIONSHIP?

Happy Tuesday lovers! If it wasn’t for the podcast right now we would have no idea what day it is!We need to address that the OG Bachelor Australia winners Tim and Anna are having a baby and I'M NOT C...

5 Touko 20201h 5min

GAS LIT CITY BABY

GAS LIT CITY BABY

This week life threw us a few spanners and we missed our Tuesday episode, but with this ep we are back better than ever! Laura finally jumped on the “Too Hot To Handle” bandwagon, she is born again an...

29 Huhti 20201h 17min

ASK UNCUT - HELP! I can't orgasm with my partner and who gets the dog.

ASK UNCUT - HELP! I can't orgasm with my partner and who gets the dog.

Therapy Thursday has arrived!This week we have a couple that can’t climax together, a couple that are fighting over who gets custody (of the dog of course) and a another couple facing the very common ...

22 Huhti 202029min

27. Doing it for the swipes

27. Doing it for the swipes

Never has there been a more important time to make sure your dating profile is Sparkly, shiny, relevant and most importantly not 5 years old! We chat today about the dos and don'ts when creating an on...

20 Huhti 202049min

ASK UNCUT - HELP! My mum is an alcoholic, my boyfriend is messaging someone behind my back and by boyfriends besty is sliding into my DM'S

ASK UNCUT - HELP! My mum is an alcoholic, my boyfriend is messaging someone behind my back and by boyfriends besty is sliding into my DM'S

Happy Thursday lovers! This week, after we get past Britts near death experience (Lolcano) we poured ourselves an ISO wine and gave our best, most heartfelt advice.Coming up: My mum is an alcoholic an...

16 Huhti 202036min

Talking  miscarriage

Talking miscarriage

There is a lot of stigma and guilt that is attached to miscarriage and despite how common they are, they are not commonly spoken about. In this episode Laura speaks openly about her two miscarriages, ...

13 Huhti 20201h 1min

Suosittua kategoriassa Yhteiskunta

olipa-kerran-otsikko
i-dont-like-mondays
siita-on-vaikea-puhua
gogin-ja-janin-maailmanhistoria
kolme-kaannekohtaa
poks
antin-palautepalvelu
sita
aikalisa
mamma-mia
yopuolen-tarinoita-2
kaksi-aitia
rss-murhan-anatomia
rss-ootsa-kuullut-tasta
meidan-pitais-puhua
rss-palmujen-varjoissa
rss-nikotellen
ootsa-kuullut-tasta-2
terapeuttiville-qa
lahko