Conflict Affects Sex and Sex Affects Conflict. Uncut with Sexologist Lucille Shackleton
Life Uncut27 Helmi 2025

Conflict Affects Sex and Sex Affects Conflict. Uncut with Sexologist Lucille Shackleton

Lucille Shackleton is a sexologist and relationship therapist who has just released her debut book titled “All In”.

When Lucille was working with couples as a therapist, most of the training that she had done said ‘if the friendship is good the sex will be good’ but this didn’t seem to be the case in practice. So Lucille went and did a masters of sexology to figure out what some of the missing pieces to the ‘good sex’ puzzle were. One particular puzzle piece that we wanted to unpack with Lucille was how much conflict affected libido and desire.

We unpack:

  • The love lust split
  • Why referring to your partner as ‘mummy’ or ‘daddy’ (not in that way) can make you both stop desiring each other
  • The question of ‘do you not want sex?’ or ‘are you not having sex that you actually want?’
  • Figuring out your sex values
  • Relationship satisfaction goes up when people learn that their ‘problems’ are normal, even if they aren’t having more sex
  • The ‘narratives’ that we create about our partners & ‘core negative’ images
  • Does intention matter when it comes to conflict?
  • How much our ego comes into play during conflict
  • Sex life after giving birth
  • When one partner has a dry spell or ‘shuts up shop’ and doesn’t want sex anymore

You can find more from Lucille at her Instagram
Grab her new book

You can watch us on Youtube

Find us on Instagram

Join us on tiktok

Or join the Facebook Discussion Group

Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jaksot(878)

Ask Uncut - My Boyfriend Drank Another Woman's Breast Milk

Ask Uncut - My Boyfriend Drank Another Woman's Breast Milk

Hey Lifers,Welcome back to your weekly therapy session where we unpack your deep, burning questions! Vibes for the week:Keeshia: (follow up from last week is that if you already pay for Spotify, you c...

10 Huhti 202449min

Uncut with Diana Nyad - Creating Lasting Friendship & Unapologetically Chasing Your Dreams

Uncut with Diana Nyad - Creating Lasting Friendship & Unapologetically Chasing Your Dreams

You might have heard a few weeks ago, Laura recommended we all watch Nyad on Netflix. Nyad was nominated for an Oscar and the film told the story of Diana Nyad, who first attempted to swim over 100 mi...

9 Huhti 202442min

Living In a Glass House of Accountability, a Feminist Talk and the Inspired Unemployed

Living In a Glass House of Accountability, a Feminist Talk and the Inspired Unemployed

Hey Lifers! Britt is still in the jungle & we'd love, love, love for you to vote to keep her in (10 times if you can endure the ads haha) VOTE HERE Do you go to sleep angry with your partner or do you...

8 Huhti 202457min

Ask Uncut - My Partner Does Drugs on Special Occasions

Ask Uncut - My Partner Does Drugs on Special Occasions

Hey Lifers!Welcome to your weekly therapy session where we answer all of your deep, dark and controversial questions (today).Laura is in Bali and has been making her sister bank roll the trip. Britt i...

3 Huhti 202446min

How to Manage a Break Up  & Why You Seem to be Dating the Same Person Over and Over- Uncut with Jillian Turecki

How to Manage a Break Up & Why You Seem to be Dating the Same Person Over and Over- Uncut with Jillian Turecki

How the f*ck do you move on when you're in the depths of a relationship? Today's episode is with the incredible Jillian Turecki! Jillian Turecki is a certified relationship coach, teacher and writer. ...

2 Huhti 202454min

Are You the Friend Who Disappears When You're in a Relationship? Lizzo Has Quit & Laura's Questioning Plane Etiquette

Are You the Friend Who Disappears When You're in a Relationship? Lizzo Has Quit & Laura's Questioning Plane Etiquette

Hey Lifers, We hope you all had wonderful Easter weekends; whether that is with or without egg hunts and hat parades! Laura shares her feelings around adding magic to special events so that they becom...

1 Huhti 20241h 1min

The best of The PickUp - Who's your Daddy?

The best of The PickUp - Who's your Daddy?

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

31 Maalis 202431min

Ask Uncut - Blow job etiquette

Ask Uncut - Blow job etiquette

Hey Lifers!Producer Keeshia is filling in for Britt while she hangs out with all of the creatures in the jungle! But I'm a celebrity had us thinking about a particular insight into all of our relation...

27 Maalis 202450min

Suosittua kategoriassa Yhteiskunta

olipa-kerran-otsikko
i-dont-like-mondays
siita-on-vaikea-puhua
gogin-ja-janin-maailmanhistoria
kolme-kaannekohtaa
poks
antin-palautepalvelu
sita
aikalisa
kaksi-aitia
mamma-mia
yopuolen-tarinoita-2
rss-murhan-anatomia
rss-palmujen-varjoissa
rss-ootsa-kuullut-tasta
meidan-pitais-puhua
rss-nikotellen
terapeuttiville-qa
ootsa-kuullut-tasta-2
rss-haudattu