Conflict Affects Sex and Sex Affects Conflict. Uncut with Sexologist Lucille Shackleton
Life Uncut27 Helmi 2025

Conflict Affects Sex and Sex Affects Conflict. Uncut with Sexologist Lucille Shackleton

Lucille Shackleton is a sexologist and relationship therapist who has just released her debut book titled “All In”.

When Lucille was working with couples as a therapist, most of the training that she had done said ‘if the friendship is good the sex will be good’ but this didn’t seem to be the case in practice. So Lucille went and did a masters of sexology to figure out what some of the missing pieces to the ‘good sex’ puzzle were. One particular puzzle piece that we wanted to unpack with Lucille was how much conflict affected libido and desire.

We unpack:

  • The love lust split
  • Why referring to your partner as ‘mummy’ or ‘daddy’ (not in that way) can make you both stop desiring each other
  • The question of ‘do you not want sex?’ or ‘are you not having sex that you actually want?’
  • Figuring out your sex values
  • Relationship satisfaction goes up when people learn that their ‘problems’ are normal, even if they aren’t having more sex
  • The ‘narratives’ that we create about our partners & ‘core negative’ images
  • Does intention matter when it comes to conflict?
  • How much our ego comes into play during conflict
  • Sex life after giving birth
  • When one partner has a dry spell or ‘shuts up shop’ and doesn’t want sex anymore

You can find more from Lucille at her Instagram
Grab her new book

You can watch us on Youtube

Find us on Instagram

Join us on tiktok

Or join the Facebook Discussion Group

Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jaksot(876)

UNCUT with Camilla Franks - Surviving breast cancer, building an empire and living with authenticity

UNCUT with Camilla Franks - Surviving breast cancer, building an empire and living with authenticity

Happy Tuesday Lifers! We’re coming to you cross continentally! Woohoo!Britt is here on the pod, but not here in Aus! She has touched down in Spain with to be with her lover.Today, we have a guest that...

22 Kesä 20211h 32min

ASK UNCUT -  HELP!!! Binge drinking, porn and dirty cheating dawgs

ASK UNCUT - HELP!!! Binge drinking, porn and dirty cheating dawgs

It's Thursday so let’s get into your deep and dirty Q’s! My friend loves to party, and has progressively taken it further and further. It’s now at the point where she gets so drunk and carries on that...

16 Kesä 202133min

Uncut with She's On The Money

Uncut with She's On The Money

Kicking off todays episode with a guy who got eaten by a whale and why the hell is Em Rata holding her baby like a sack of potatoes.Then sit down with the very Devine, Victoria Devine from Australia's...

14 Kesä 20211h 26min

ASK UNCUT - Holding on, viagra, bad Dad and bad haircuts

ASK UNCUT - Holding on, viagra, bad Dad and bad haircuts

It's Therapy Thursday and in todays session we are answering your deep, dark and burning questions:Should I still go to an event with my ex as friends, even though I'm still in love with him?Viagra fo...

9 Kesä 202125min

Getting back on that horse with comedian Becky Lucas - Talking failures and sh*tty life lessons.

Getting back on that horse with comedian Becky Lucas - Talking failures and sh*tty life lessons.

What do you call a politician who accidentally zooms parliament Nude? Unlucky.What do you call a politician who accidentally zooms parliament nude again while urinating? Fired.haha if you guys think y...

9 Kesä 202159min

Closure. If you know the what, the why doesn't matter. Or does it?

Closure. If you know the what, the why doesn't matter. Or does it?

LIFERS! We have a guest on for today's intro... officially introducing producer Keeshia!Tinder released a new feature and I want to know where that was when we were online dating!Ok let's deep dive. T...

9 Kesä 202157min

ASK UNCUT - Short back and sides, cheating husbands and can you be friends with your friends ex?

ASK UNCUT - Short back and sides, cheating husbands and can you be friends with your friends ex?

Lifers, it is THURSDAY! Which means we are here to answer your deep dark and burning questions..., and boy do we have some doozies for you!To shave or unleash the secret garden... What should I do to ...

2 Kesä 202129min

BONUS EP - Strictly LOLs our favourite workplace related accidentally unfiltered stories

BONUS EP - Strictly LOLs our favourite workplace related accidentally unfiltered stories

We thought it was about time we brought you a bonus episode full of laughs and questionable life choices, so HERE IT IS a bonus episode of strictly Accidentally Unfiltered stories of all the messed up...

2 Kesä 202123min

Suosittua kategoriassa Yhteiskunta

olipa-kerran-otsikko
i-dont-like-mondays
siita-on-vaikea-puhua
gogin-ja-janin-maailmanhistoria
kolme-kaannekohtaa
poks
antin-palautepalvelu
sita
aikalisa
mamma-mia
kaksi-aitia
yopuolen-tarinoita-2
rss-murhan-anatomia
rss-palmujen-varjoissa
rss-ootsa-kuullut-tasta
meidan-pitais-puhua
rss-nikotellen
ootsa-kuullut-tasta-2
terapeuttiville-qa
mystista