Rage vs Doing the Right Thing | #113

When someone yells at your mom: anger, boundaries, emotional control, and doing the right thing.

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What do you do when you hear someone raise their voice at your mom — and everything in your body wants to explode?

Today, we unpack a tense holiday moment that forces a deeper conversation about anger, boundaries, family dynamics, and emotional regulation. Louie shares a confrontation with his mother’s partner, before reflecting on how rage, fear, and protection instincts show up — even after years of therapy.

We also talk about:

• Navigating a complicated relationship with your mother

• Why “doing the right thing” can still feel awful

• Anger vs. self-control and what emotional maturity actually looks like

• Loneliness during the holidays and the push-pull of wanting connection

• Learning to validate yourself instead of tearing yourself apart

• What it means to be proud of yourself for the first time

This episode is about breaking old patterns, choosing accountability over aggression, and learning how to sit with uncomfortable emotions instead of acting them out.

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If you’re struggling with family conflict, holiday depression, anger issues, or feeling behind in life, this one’s for you. Thanks for being here... Secondhand Therapy.

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