271. How to Talk About Money With Your Partner Without Fighting with Andy Hill

If money conversations keep turning into fights, it’s not because you’re bad with money, it’s because you were never taught how to talk about it together. In today’s episode I’m joined by Andy Hill, award-winning family finance coach, host of Marriage, Kids & Money, and author of Own Your Time, to talk about why money fights are rarely about money, how invisible labor and emotional labor quietly erode relationships, and what it actually takes to build a life that feels aligned instead of exhausting. We unpack how to stop repeating the same financial arguments, how to communicate more equitably with your partner, and how to redefine success so time (not just money) becomes your most valuable currency. Whether you’re partnered, parenting, or just rethinking what “having it all” really means, this conversation will help you build a life you don’t need to escape from. Andy’s links: Website: https://marriagekidsandmoney.com Book: https://marriagekidsandmoney.com/book/ Visit ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠ to stay up to date and find any resources mentioned on our show! 00:00 Intro 00:47 Why You Need to Dream About Your Time 01:49 The Mailbox Exercise: What Would You Stop Doing? 03:09 The FaceTime Birthday That Changed Everything 05:15 Karaoke Duets & Life Priorities 06:03 Debunking "Keep Your Head Down Until 65" 08:53 When Money Becomes Your Currency vs. Time 11:45 The Identity Crisis of Leaving Corporate 14:27 How to Know When a Role Isn't Working 16:30 Emotional Labor & Equity in Marriage 20:30 The Volcano Fight: When Money Arguments Aren't About Money 33:10 Financial Abuse & Protecting Yourself as a Stay-at-Home Parent 38:27 Prenups, Postnups & Why You Need One 41:27 The Expense That Saved Thousands Without Changing Happiness 43:38 Why Traditional FIRE Didn't Work for Our Family 48:36 The Power of Pivoting & Financial Confidence 50:26 First Steps Toward Time Freedom 55:03 Small Steps to Reclaim Your Life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices