Are Coffee Dates a Bad Idea?

It’s easy to get swept up by chemistry and start investing in someone before they’ve actually shown they’re committed. When that happens, we don’t just lose perspective… we start obsessing.In this epi...

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Becoming a dad recently made something click for me that I’d been circling for years: Choosing the right partner might be the single most important decision you’ll ever make. It shapes your finances, ...

2 Maalis 11min

Why does confidence feel so fragile?You can get the date, enter a relationship, even achieve success in other areas of your life . . . and still feel like you’re “not good enough.” That insecurity can...

27 Helmi 15min

Do men change? I get asked this all the time . . . and the truth is more nuanced than the internet makes it sound. When I met my wife, I wasn’t looking for commitment. A couple of years later, we were...

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Have you ever noticed the moment it happens?You meet someone, you’re fine… and then suddenly you really like them and you start editing yourself. You become agreeable. Overly available. “Easy.” And it...

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I hear this all the time: “Matthew, they’re wonderful but they won’t let me in. The conversations stay shallow. They deflect when things get real. And no matter how safe I try to make it, they just . ...

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We often talk about how the right partner will elevate your best and soothe your worst. But what if you secretly feel like your best isn’t good enough . . . or that your worst will be “too much“ for s...

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Dating can burn you out . . . especially when you’ve been rejected, ghosted, or stuck in that exhausting loop where nothing ever turns into something real. In Part 2 of my conversation with clinical p...

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