767: Being Nice May Not Be Kind, with Graham Allcott

Graham Allcott: KIND

Graham Allcott is an author, speaker, entrepreneur, and the founder of Think Productive, a leading provider of training and consultancy. He is the author of multiple books, including the bestseller How to Be a Productivity Ninja and his latest book, KIND: The Quiet Power of Kindness at Work (Amazon, Bookshop)*.

“Nice” means telling people what they want to hear. “Kind” means telling them what they need to hear. The best leaders are kind. In this conversation, Graham and I explore how we can do a better job of following through.

Key Points

“Nice” means telling people what they want to hear, whereas “kind” means telling them what they need to hear.
Kindness is both concern for others and concern for self. Just like with salted caramel, it’s best with the right balance.
Leaders often do better articulating vision and values than they do with getting clear on expectations of value each person should provide.
Being clear is an act of kindness in itself because it drives psychological safety.
Use a personal mantra as a concise and powerful way to consistently remind people about what’s most important.
Invite others to “give the last 20%” in feedback to uncover areas where clarity would help.

Resources Mentioned

KIND: The Quiet Power of Kindness at Work by Graham Allcott (Amazon, Bookshop)*
Rev Up for the Week (Graham’s newsletter)

Interview Notes

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