Will My Ex Come Back? The Truth About Getting Back Together Ep. 164

One of the most common questions after a breakup is:
Will my ex change come back?

In this episode, I unpack why that question keeps you stuck — and what actually needs to happen if there's ever going to be a different outcome, whether that's with your ex or someone new.

I talk about:

Why hoping your ex will "realise they made a mistake" often keeps you emotionally trapped
The difference between breakups that involve impulsivity and those where someone has already emotionally checked out
Why getting back together sometimes works — and why it usually doesn't
What really has to change for a relationship to work the second time around

I also share my personal story — how my husband and I first met, why we broke up, what that breakup forced me to confront in myself, and why things were different when we came back together.

We explore:

How unprocessed emotional pain shows up as triggers, reactivity, and confusion in relationships
Why saying "things will be different" is just lip service without real internal change
The difference between genuine growth and performative change meant to win someone back
Why becoming more emotionally stable, independent, and grounded is actually more attractive — not less

This episode isn't about convincing your ex to come back.
It's about becoming someone who no longer needs to.

Because real change doesn't get wasted. It either creates the possibility of a healthier relationship with your ex — or it prepares you for a healthier relationship with someone else.

Either way, you win.

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