S2E6 - Boundaries, People Pleasing & the Loneliness of Growth (Why Healing Changes Your Relationships)

S2E6 - Boundaries, People Pleasing & the Loneliness of Growth (Why Healing Changes Your Relationships)

In this deeply personal solo episode of Catching the Octopus Podcast, Niomi Hurley shares the raw reality of boundaries, people pleasing, and personal healing — and why growth often feels lonely before it feels peaceful.

If you've ever struggled to say no, felt responsible for other people's emotions, or noticed relationships changing as you heal, this episode will speak straight to your nervous system.

Niomi reflects on her journey as a recovering people pleaser, shaped by childhood conditioning, corporate expectations, family dynamics, and romantic relationships — and how meditation, self-worth, and conscious boundaries completely changed how she shows up in life.

This episode explores:

• Why saying no can feel confronting (for you and others)
• How healing disrupts old relationship dynamics
• The grief and loneliness that can come with growth
• Boundaries vs control — and why intention matters
• Why people may fall away as you raise your standards
• How meditation builds inner authority and self-trust
• Navigating guilt after setting boundaries
• Boundaries in family, work, dating, and friendships
• Perimenopause, hormones, and changing tolerance levels
• Choosing peace without losing compassion

This is an honest conversation about self-respect, emotional responsibility, consent, and reclaiming your inner authority — especially for women who have spent decades putting everyone else first.

If you're on a spiritual or personal growth journey, this episode is both a mirror and a reminder:
✨ You're not broken — you're evolving.

Hosted by Niomi Hurley, a human behaviour researcher and clinical hypnotherapist who integrates psychology with energy-informed healing approaches. With experience in corporate environments and individual practice, and through her work at Get Up and Grow Consulting, Niomi works with organisations and individuals to build capacity by addressing the behavioural, emotional, and subconscious factors that influence wellbeing and performance.

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