How to Break Up: When to Leave, What to Say, and How to Detach (Short + Long-Term) Ft. @SabrinaBendory

Breaking up is hard—especially when you’re stuck in the “should I stay or should I go?” spiral. In this episode of MissJudged, Alyssa is joined by Sabrina Bendory, author of Detached, to share a no-fluff, step-by-step breakup guide for short-term relationships and long-term relationships—including how to break up when you live together.

We cover the biggest signs it’s time to end things, how to stop bargaining with yourself, and the exact breakup scripts to use so you can leave clearly (without turning it into a debate). Sabrina explains healthy detachment, how to do no contact the right way, and why healing isn’t about being “unbothered”—it’s about regulating your nervous system, rebuilding self-trust, and finally choosing peace.

If you’re ending a relationship with a partner you still love, leaving a situationship that’s draining you, or trying to move on after a breakup without going back, this episode gives you the rules, boundaries, and mindset shifts that actually work.

And because it’s MissJudged, Alyssa delivers her most feral takes yet: are we allowed to be a little toxic after a breakup… or are we just being human? We break down what’s truly toxic vs. what’s protective—blocking, muting, deleting the thread, refusing “closure coffee,” and why performing “cool girl healing” can keep you stuck.

Topics include: how to know when to break up, breakup advice, breakup scripts, ending a long-term relationship, breaking up with someone you live with, detachment, anxious attachment, boundaries, no contact, how to move on after a breakup, and healing after heartbreak.

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