19. How to Overcome Imposter Syndrome

In this episode, Sam recalls the first time she felt imposter syndrome at work, which leads her into a deep dive. Why do we feel imposter syndrome? Can you feel imposter syndrome in your personal and romantic relationships? How can we overcome it? What could life look like if we don't—or if we do—overcome it? Then, she outlines actionable strategies for conquering it and taking back control of your life. Listen to this episode if you've ever felt imposter syndrome, and share it with anyone who you think is selling themselves short. Key moments: 01:52 What is imposter syndrome? 04:02 Why the first imposter syndrome research only studied women 04:37 A popular quote/statistic that really resonates 05:34 The first time Sam ever felt imposter syndrome 06:29 How Sam’s influencer career started 07:43 The most valuable thing Sam learned in the early days of becoming an influencer 09:38 How Sam started working for herself 11:48 Women feel imposter syndrome more than men 12:01 The social, cultural, and psychological factors that influence who experiences imposter syndrome 12:13 The types of people who are most likely to feel imposter syndrome 13:05 Why we have imposter syndrome 13:35 Are the stakes actually that high? Or are you projecting? 14:18 Feeling like you don’t belong 14:24 I AM CRYYYYIIINNNGGGGG LMAOOO 15:36 Reframing your thoughts (I ate with this tbh) 15:54 Perfectionism and imposter syndrome 16:47 Returning to the failure vs. judgment spiral 17:53 Masking behaviors and how they fuel imposter syndrome 18:48 Subjective fields of work (this is for the creatives) 19:42 Comparison is the thief of joy (sorry for the cliché) 20:27 Achievement-based validation in childhood 21:46 Imposter syndrome in your personal and romantic relationships (also see: anxious attachment style) 23:01 Catastrophizing and the imposter phenomenon 26:35 The impact imposter syndrome can have on our lives if it goes unchecked 28:44 How to overcome imposter syndrome 29:09 How to reframe your thoughts (with examples) 29:33 Stop saying “I got lucky” when you accomplish or achieve something 30:20 How to make a wins log (Sam reads hers aloud lol) 32:45 Flip the script (best possible outcome exercise) 34:06 A counterintuitive exercise (worst possible outcome exercise?) 35:51 Something all women need to start doing IMMEDIATELY 38:40 A mind-blowing twist on “feel the fear and do it anyway" 39:42 Act like an imposter to overcome imposter syndrome? 41:37 Distinguish between facts vs. feelings 43:40 The bottom line Thanks for listening! New episodes are released every Sunday at 8 AM ET, so if you liked this episode, subscribe or follow to get notified about the next one. And please leave me a rating or review, so I can continue to improve the show. Talk soon! Follow along: Instagram: www.instagram.com/lifeincapslock TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@lifeincapslock YouTube: www.youtube.com/@lifeincapslock Threads: www.threads.net/@lifeincapslock Resources for this episode can be found here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices