The One Conversation That Will Change Your Sex Life | Ep. 161

If you want a better sex life, you need to learn how to talk about sex. In this episode, I break down why most couples avoid these conversations and how that silence creates distance, resentment, and confusion. I walk you through exactly when to bring it up, what to say, and how to say it in a way that builds connection instead of triggering defensiveness. You will learn how to lead with curiosity, ask better questions, and express your needs without blame. I also explain the real reasons desire shifts in midlife, from stress to hormones to body image, so you stop taking it personally. This is about turning sex from a source of pressure into a shared experience that brings you closer.

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In This Episode:

00:00 Why Communication Matters More Than Technique

00:32 Why Talking About Sex Feels So Hard

01:10 The Biggest Mistake Men Make

01:45 When To Bring Up Sex The Right Way

02:20 What To Say To Start The Conversation

03:00 Questions That Open Her Up

03:45 How To Express Your Needs Without Blame

04:30 What Affects Her Desire In Midlife

05:20 Shift To A Team Mindset

05:50 Why Ongoing Check Ins Matter

06:05 One Sentence That Changes Everything

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

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