Anger Management: Practical Tools to Control Anger22 Maalis

73 - How to Stop a Fight Before It Does Real Damage

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

You're in the middle of an argument with your partner. Your heart is racing, things are escalating and you can feel it heading somewhere neither of you wants to go. In this episode of The Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs introduces one of the most important relationship skills you've probably never been taught - relationship repair.

In this solo episode, Alastair breaks down exactly what relationship repair is, why it matters and how to use it in the heat of the moment to stop conflict before it does lasting damage to your relationship.

Key Takeaways:

Relationship repair (a concept developed by Dr. John Gottman) is the ability to recognise when an argument is escalating and take steps to redirect it before real damage is done
The first skill is awareness: tuning into your own physical and emotional signals before things spiral
Reminding yourself that your relationship matters more than the argument is a mindset shift that changes everything
Repair attempts - a soft tone, an I-statement, a request for a break, even humour or a touch - can turn a conflict around in seconds
Accepting your partner's repair attempts is just as important as making your own
The goal isn't to never disagree. It's to disagree in a way that doesn't damage what you've built together

If conflict in your relationship keeps escalating further than it should, this episode gives you the tools to change that, starting with your very next argument.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking the Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

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92 - What to Say When Your Partner Is Upset (And Why Nothing You Say Seems to Help)

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91 - How to Control Anger: The Real Reason You Keep Losing Control

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90 - You've Grown Apart: Here’s How to Close the Distance

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89 - You Can Feel Your Anger Building: Here's What to Do Next

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88 - Online Anger Management vs Face-to-Face Programs (From Someone Who's Run 2,000+ Sessions)

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87 - Why You're Still Losing It - Even After Trying Everything

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28 Kesä 14min

86 - How to Tell If You Have Anger Issue

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs walks through seven signs that anger may be causing real problems in your life. Wh...

21 Kesä 10min