5 Secrets to Reignite Your Sex Life (That Most Couples Never Try) | Ep. 162

In this episode, I'm breaking down five practical secrets that can completely transform your sex life in a long-term relationship. If your sex life has gone quiet, predictable, or nonexistent, you're not alone — and you're definitely not broken. I walk through how to start having real conversations about sex, why desire doesn't start in the bedroom, the power of novelty and curiosity, how to expand your pleasure toolkit in simple ways, and a mindset shift around what sex even means that takes the pressure off and brings desire back. This one is equal parts practical, playful, and honest — and Secret #5 might change how you think about sex entirely.

In this episode:

00:00 Introduction — the one goal nobody puts on their list

01:14 Secret #1: Upgrade how you talk about sex

02:46 The sex menu tool — appetizers, mains & desserts

03:35 Secret #2: Desire doesn't start in the bedroom

04:52 Touch without an agenda — why it changes everything

05:40 Secret #3: Interrupt the routine

06:28 Secret #4: Expand your pleasure toolkit

07:56 Praise kink & the types of orgasms nobody taught you

08:43 Secret #5: Redefine what counts as sex

09:41 The 5 shifts summarized + Hotter, Wiser, Wilder course

Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast

Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com

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