Ep. 401 - Navigating Loss, Surrender, and the Path Home to Yourself: The Process with Carly Ottaway

This week, we're sitting down with Carly Ottaway—Pathway member and author of Coming Home—to explore the profound transformation that emerges from life's most destabilizing moments. From navigating fertility struggles to losing her home in a fire, Carly opens up about how surrender, self-trust, and deep inner work became her greatest anchors through the unthinkable.

Together, they unpack the illusion of control, the healing power of authenticity, and how speaking from the heart unlocks your most magnetic self. This conversation is a reminder that even in your darkest chapters, you are being guided toward something more aligned, expansive, and true.

If you've ever felt like everything is falling apart, this episode will show you how it might actually be falling into place. And if you’re ready to start understanding your patterning, now is the time to take advantage of our Pathway Membership Spring Sale. $30/month $23/month now until April 5th at 11:59 PST.

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In this episode we talk about:

• The myth of over-preparation and why authenticity creates deeper connection
• Learning to trust your voice as a channel rather than a script
• How perfectionism blocks true expression and magnetism
• The role of surrender in manifestation, especially during uncertainty
• Navigating fertility struggles and releasing control over timing
• Experiencing loss and trauma as catalysts for expansion
• The importance of nervous system regulation in times of crisis
• Using presence as a tool for healing in the messy middle
• Reparenting yourself while actively parenting your children
• How inner child wounds shape control patterns and people-pleasing
• The shift from external validation to internal safety
• Visibility as a spiritual and emotional expansion process
• Writing and storytelling as a healing modality
• Recognizing signs and synchronicities as guidance from the universe
• Building a life rooted in authenticity rather than performance

Mentioned In the Episode:

• Carly’s feature on the TBM page!
• Read Coming Home: The Path to Your Favourite Self and Permission to Do It Your Way by Carly Ottaway
• Ep. 397 - Why Your Nervous System Is Blocking Your Manifestation with Sarah Baldwin
• Ep. 376 - Dr. Tara Swart on Signs from the Other Side: Love, Loss, and Connection Beyond Death
• Take the Nervous System Quiz
• Find our Return to Magic Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Safe DI, Worst Case Scenario DI, and the Competency DI)

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HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips

(with exercises by Jessica Gill)

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The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM’s Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.

At TBM, we’ve redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity.

Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you’ll learn how to:
– Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth
– Heal your inner child and integrate shadow work
– Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth
– Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true self

With over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you’re meant to live.

Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest.

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