1754 || judge your options not your choice

When I act in alignment with my core values I feel more confident but what if the decisions I’m stuck with leave me with no choice but to make choices that don’t align and dont fit my desired values for the future?

The beauty of judging the choices I had rather than the decision I made, is that it opens me up to the nuanced reality.

It’s not about perfect alignment because that’s not possible or available but it’s about attunement.

Alignment with context. You’re not discovering your values, you’re practicing them. Doing what you can, learning from the mistakes, and not being so analytical and precise.

This whole universe is chaos. We can, realistically, make sense of very little.

So instead of trying to solve a puzzle that doesn’t exist, just practice existing. Practice staying present as often as possible. Practice moving with the inherent knowledge that things only get better when we start doing better, where we are, with the context we’re given.

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