67: The Skills That Got You Here Won't Get You There: How Real Change Actually Happens

How do other people do it?

It seems like there is a secret to creating lasting change that other people know, but is kept from us. Unlock the secret of what it really takes to learn something new and create lasting change.

Our New Year's–style "all at once" efforts so often fail, and the skills that got us here won't get us to the next level.

Real change is multi-layered, slower than we expect, and always tied to becoming a "new person" with new habits, mindsets, and priorities.

Learn how to set more realistic expectations, focus on small sustainable steps, trust the process and create consistency with habits—so your future self can genuinely thank you.

What you'll discover today:

How unrealistic expectations about "quick change" create discouragement and quitting.

The idea that the skills, habits, and mindset that got you here won't take you where you want to go next.

Why New Year's–style overhauls fail and how "one bite at a time" actually works in real life.

Hitting the goal and maintaining it long term require two different sets of skills and habits.

Creating small, repeated actions, self-compassion, and support are the keys to making change stick.

Timestamps:

01:05 What It Really Takes

03:30 Becoming Someone New

04:20 Keys to Change

06:05 Expectation Problems

09:49 All-or-Nothing Thinking

12:20 Achieving vs. Maintaining

14:10 Identity Shifts

20:40 Tenacity, Faith, and Belief

22:30 Redefining Success

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