The Blueprint for Fighting Fair in Marriage | Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

In this week's episode, Grant sits down with legendary author and marriage expert Dr. Emerson Eggerichs (author of Love and Respect) to dive into the messy, but necessary work of resolving conflict in relationships. After 52 years of marriage, Emerson has realized that even the most influential leaders often default to teenager behavior the moment they walk through their front door.

They break down the clashing preferences that lead to heated fellowship and how the next generation of leaders can build a marriage that doesn't just survive leadership, but fuels it. Using the A.R.T. framework, Emerson explains how to stop stepping on each other's air hoses and start fighting for—not against—your spouse.

In this episode, they discuss:

• The Myth of Right vs. Wrong: Why most marriage fights are actually about clashing preferences rather than biblical mandates.

• The A.R.T. of Fighting Fair: A deep dive into Awareness, Restraint, and Turnaround.

• Own and Hone the Tone: Why you can be right, but still be wrong at the top of your voice.

• The Power of the Bedroom: Why getting it right in the bedroom is the bedrock for decision-making outside of it.

• Leading with Prayer: How 90 seconds of inviting Jesus into a stalemate can change the trajectory of an argument.

👉 Love & Respect Website: https://www.loveandrespect.com/

👉 Check out Dr. Emerson's Podcast: https://www.loveandrespect.com/podcast/the-a-r-t-of-fighting-fair-in-marriage/

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