You Can't Run From Your Problems: Escape, Avoidance & Trey's Erectile Dysfunction | Ep. 13 ft. Dr. Melissa Richman

Can you really run from your problems — or do you just bring them with you on the plane?

This week I'm joined by Dr. Melissa Richman, psychotherapist and relationship expert based in Los Angeles, to unpack one of the most thematically rich episodes of Season 3. We're talking Trey's psychogenic erectile dysfunction (yes, we go there), why Charlotte's "fix it" energy is its own form of avoidance, and what Carrie's Hollywood escape really reveals about the stories we tell ourselves.

We also get into Miranda's mechanical bull moment — was it liberation or performance? Samantha's unexpected shame spiral when her dildo model tries to take things further. And the LA vs. New York vs. Europe question about sex, superficiality, and whether the wellness industrial complex is actually helping anyone.

Dr. Richman calls it like it is — and this conversation does not disappoint.

What we cover:

• Trey's erectile dysfunction: why it's psychogenic, not physical, and what nocturnal penile tumescence actually tells us
• The Madonna-whore complex, Bunny MacDougall, and why Trey was never really available for marriage
• Charlotte's avoidance spiral and why fixing everything kept her from facing the rejection
• Carrie escaping to LA — the difference between getting perspective and running away
• Miranda in LA: performing sexiness vs. actually inhabiting it
• Samantha's shadow self — what the Met Gala moment reveals about her real relationship with her own sexuality
• Big as a potential sex addict, and why Carrie kept going back
• The LA vs. Europe lens on sex, desire, and how much the wellness culture is smoke and mirrors
• Polyamory and open relationships: Dr. Richman's honest (and probably controversial) take

Find Dr. Melissa Richman at richmancare.com or on Instagram @drmelissarichman.

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