#16: MBT 1 on 1 Therapy > Between who you are and who you are becoming

🎙️ Special Episode – “Between Who You Were and Who You Are Becoming”

Welcome to this special episode of the MBT podcast.

In this episode, you are given another unique insight into a one-on-one therapy session — a space where thoughts, emotions, and patterns become visible as they unfold in everyday life.

What happens in this session goes a step deeper. Not only do tension and patterns emerge, but also a deeper question: who am I, now that I am changing?

Today, we listen to a conversation where old certainties begin to shift. Where questions arise about work, relationships, and identity. And where it becomes clear that change does not only happen within you — but also affects the world around you.

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🧠 What this episode explores

Inner unrest and self-doubt

Sometimes unrest doesn’t come from one single event,

but from everything happening at once.

Work, relationships, expectations, choices.

And suddenly you notice:

you no longer automatically know what you want.

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The search for identity

When old patterns start to loosen,

space is created — but also confusion.

Because if you no longer respond the way you always did,

who are you now?

This episode shows what that search feels like:

uncertain, vulnerable, but also honest and necessary.

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The balance between old and new

A powerful image in this session is that of a balance —

On one side:

old patterns, safety, adapting.

On the other:

new choices, self-care, space for yourself.

And in between:

doubt, tension, and the search for balance.

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Relationships that shift

When you change,

the dynamics with others begin to shift as well.

Sometimes there is understanding.

Sometimes confusion.

Sometimes resistance.

And in those moments, it becomes clear:

not everyone grows at the same pace.

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The feeling of not being seen

In this session, a familiar and deeper feeling emerges:

I am not truly seen for who I am.

When responses from others don’t align,

it can touch something much deeper —

something that has been there for a long time.

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Setting boundaries and creating space

Slowly, something new begins to develop.

Not by trying harder,

but by doing less of what doesn’t feel right.

A boundary that holds.

A feeling that is allowed to exist.

A choice to stop moving against yourself.

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A different way of relating to emotions

What makes this episode powerful

is the shift in how emotions are approached.

They are no longer pushed away,

but explored.

Not immediately solved,

but first felt, understood, and allowed.

This is mentalizing in practice.

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🌟 The common thread

The central theme of this episode

is the transition from living through patterns

to living from within yourself.

This process is not linear.

It is uncertain, uncomfortable, and constantly shifting.

But within that movement,

growth begins to take shape.

Mentalizing helps you pause

instead of reacting immediately —

to reflect on what is happening

within yourself and in others.

And perhaps most importantly:

to tolerate not knowing.

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💬 Closing

This episode shows that change is not only about what you do differently,

but about how you begin to see yourself differently.

It is a process of discovering, letting go, and choosing again.

And sometimes, the biggest step is not finding an answer,

but allowing yourself to feel:

“I don’t know yet… but I am staying with myself.”