Episode 1: Starting Out in ENM
The ENM DNM9 Heinä 2025

Episode 1: Starting Out in ENM

Episode 1: Starting Out in ENM

How We Found Ethical Non-Monogamy and What It Means to Us Curious about how people actually get into ethical non-monogamy? In this very first episode of The ENM DNM, we sit down with our full crew – Adam, Leonie, Ed, Ari, and Jacqui – to share how we each found our way into ENM, polyamory, or something a little harder to define. From queerness and curiosity to dissatisfaction with monogamy, our journeys into non-traditional relationship structures are deeply personal, sometimes hilarious, and always real. We unpack the words that have shaped us – like polyamory, relationship anarchy, and ethical non-monogamy – and how labels can be both empowering and frustrating. Whether you're still figuring out what label (if any) fits you, or you're happily dancing outside the boxes, this one’s for you.

What we talk about in this episode:
  • How we each came to non-monogamy, and why
  • Why labels like polyamory, ENM, and RA can be useful… or not
  • What communication, consent, and boundaries look like in real life
  • Early challenges and moments of growth
  • How queer identity, community, and self-discovery intersect in our relationships
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Next episode: Navigating The Early Days of ENM– we’re diving into the messy first six months of non-monogamy and how we survived them.

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