S2E23 – The Red Flags Were Always There: Why We Ignore What People Show Us

S2E23 – The Red Flags Were Always There: Why We Ignore What People Show Us

Have you ever looked back on a relationship and realised the red flags were there all along?

In this episode of Catching the Octopus, Niomi explores the psychology of projection, why we often see people through the lens of our own values, and how bonding can blind us to the reality of who someone is.

Whether it's a romantic relationship, friendship, family connection, or workplace relationship, many of us create stories about people that don't match their actual behaviour. We see potential instead of reality, make excuses for behaviour that hurts us, and ignore signs that something isn't aligned.

Niomi shares personal insights from her own healing journey, including overcoming abandonment wounds, people-pleasing patterns, and the need for external validation. She discusses:

✅ Why we project our values onto others
✅ How manipulation and unhealthy dynamics develop gradually
✅ The difference between seeing potential and seeing reality
✅ Why self-love and self-worth are essential for healthy relationships
✅ How abandonment and rejection wounds affect our choices
✅ The psychology behind people-pleasing and over-giving
✅ Why boundaries feel difficult when you're deeply bonded to someone
✅ How to recognise relationships that are no longer aligned
✅ The role of self-inquiry in personal growth and healing
✅ Moving from external blame to personal empowerment

This episode is for anyone who has ever wondered:

"Why didn't I see the signs?"
"Why do I keep attracting the same type of person?"
"How do I stop abandoning myself to keep others happy?"

If you're interested in psychology, relationships, self-awareness, personal development, emotional healing, subconscious patterns, spirituality, or authentic living, this conversation will give you plenty to reflect on.

🎧 Listen now and start seeing people, and yourself, more clearly.

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Hosted by Niomi Hurley, a human behaviour researcher and clinical hypnotherapist who integrates psychology with energy-informed healing approaches. With experience in corporate environments and individual practice, and through her work at Get Up and Grow Consulting, Niomi works with organisations and individuals to build capacity by addressing the behavioural, emotional, and subconscious factors that influence wellbeing and performance.

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