How To Actually Get Your Needs Met In Bed (Without Killing The Mood)

Asking for what you want in bed might be the scariest thing you never do. Scarier than being naked. Scarier than asking for a pay rise. And for a lot of us, we'd rather go along with it, fake it, or hope they read our minds.

In this episode, sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes and broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney get into the real reason we go quiet in the bedroom, and what to do about it.

You'll learn:

• Why communication in bed is actually a courage problem, not a confidence problem
• The worst time (and best time) to bring up a new request
• How to frame what you want so it sounds like a connection, not a complaint
• What to do when your partner shuts down
• Scripts and examples you can actually use

Whether you've been together forever or you're still in the honeymoon phase, this episode will help you stop hinting and start asking.

Pleasure Practice: Build some courage. Pull the courage you already use outside the bedroom, and bring it in.

How to Have Sex is a shame-free sex education podcast hosted by broadcaster Jay-Jay Feeney and certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes. Every episode is designed to educate, inform, and start the conversations that most of us were never taught to have.

This podcast is proudly sponsored by Wild Secrets.

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HOSTS:

Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality

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Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach

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