Setting Boundaries After Narcissistic Abuse: What It Really Feels Like

Setting boundaries in a narcissistic relationship isn't just hard — it can feel impossible. In this Community Chat, Renee is joined by 2 ladies from the CNG community for an honest conversation about what boundaries really looked like in their relationships with covert narcissists.

They talk about growing up without healthy boundary models, what happened when they tried to voice even the most basic needs, and how guilt, fear, and exhaustion became part of their everyday lives. Miranda shares what it felt like to finally set a boundary and have it met with encouragement instead of punishment. Nicole opens up about the years she spent scripting conversations perfectly — only to have them blow up anyway — and the moment she stopped taking the bait.

If you've ever felt like your needs were too much, been guilt-tripped for asking for basic respect, or wondered why something so simple felt so terrifying, this episode will help you feel seen.

Topics covered:

• Why boundaries were absent or unmodeled in childhood
• What happens when you set a boundary with a narcissist
• The guilt that comes even when you know the boundary is right
• The exhaustion of over-explaining and people pleasing
• What it feels like the first time a boundary is actually respected
• How to start setting boundaries when you're scared

The Covert Narcissism Podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. Nothing shared here should be taken as professional mental health advice. If you are in crisis or need support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.

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