271. How to Attract a Securely Attached Partner w/ Dr. Amir Levine

Have you read or heard of the book Attached? I'm chatting with Dr. Amir Levine, psychiatrist, neuroscientist, and author of Secure and co-author of Attached, a book that has indefinitely changed my life. In this episode, we break down exactly how to attract and spot a securely attached person in early dating, and how to build more security in your life (whether you're in a relationship or not). At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a listener who flew across the country for a guy who then changed his mind.

You'll learn...

All about Dr. Levine's CARP and SIMI frameworks
Why CARP should be your new non-negotiable dating standard
How to do a "CARP intervention" early without it feeling like a big emotional conversation
Why a secure relationship is supposed to feel boring
The strategy for distancing yourself from someone who isn't meeting your standards
Why most of us already have secure people in our lives and keep ignoring them
How your attachment style can be totally different with different people (yes, even your pet)

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Secure by Dr. Amir Levine

Dr. Levine's website: amirlevinemd.com

Attachment Quiz

Dr. Levine's Masterclass: The Science Of Connection

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