Cheating Isn't About Sex — Here's What It's Really About | Ep. 181

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In this episode, I'm tackling the topic nobody wants to bring up at dinner: cheating. Whether you've been cheated on, you've done the cheating, or you've just thought about it (and most of us have), this conversation is for you. I'm breaking down what infidelity actually is, why it shows up so often in midlife, and whether it's ever justified. I get into the messy truth that affairs are rarely about sex — they're about disconnection, unmet needs, and the stories we tell ourselves instead of having hard conversations. I'm not excusing cheating. I am asking you to understand it, because understanding is the first step toward preventing it, surviving it, or having the honest conversation you've been avoiding.

In This Episode:

00:00 - Sponsor: Aria Intimacy Membership

00:48 - Welcome to Taboo to Truth

01:10 - Introduction: Talking About Cheating Like Adults

01:30 - What Actually Counts as Cheating?

02:15 - Why Cheating Happens More in Midlife

02:50 - Is Cheating Ever Justified?

03:55 - Are We Even Wired for Monogamy?

04:40 - Open Relationships vs. Cheating: Where's the Line?

05:10 - What to Do If You've Been Cheated On

06:05 - How to Prevent Infidelity Before It Happens

06:45 - Final Thoughts: Choosing Honesty

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About The Host:

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

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DISCLAIMER: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

This content is created for educational and informational purposes only. It is designed to provide viewers with knowledge and insights about intimacy, relationships, communication, and sexual wellness. This video does not depict or promote sexual acts for the purpose of sexual gratification. All discussions are conducted in a respectful, professional, and sex-positive context to encourage healthy, safe, and informed conversations.

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