1791 || self neglect didn't make me more lovable

1791 || self neglect didn't make me more lovable

Do you struggle to answer the question: "what do I want?"

Do you tend to put other people's needs above your own?

Do you think the only way to be loved is through being helpful?


Constantly making choices that put other people's needs before your own that force us to abandon our own well-being can slowly erode our ability to understand what we want.


It doesn't feel like self-abandonment. It feels like "keeping the peace" or "getting through it". So we dismiss ourselves and our basic needs, and that pattern becomes a habit. Self-neglect becomes the norm.


We minimize ourselves out of fear of pushing people away.


But this is dangerous. And counter-intuitive. We build better, more connected relationships when we allow ourselves to connect to ourselves, first.


THE SOURCE: https://positivepsychology.com/self-abandonment/


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