Always Grant Yourself A Seat At The Table—Adam Lee Spencer | Ep 260

In this episode of Relatable Wisdom, I sit down with Adam Lee Spencer, who works in sports and entertainment management. Adam shares the quote that has stayed with him since his transition from twenty years in the United States Army into civilian life: “Always grant yourself a seat at the table.” It was advice from a mentor during a season when he was learning how to network, build professionally, and move into a new chapter with confidence and authenticity.

What begins as a conversation about confidence becomes something deeper. Adam and I explore how often people reject themselves before the world ever gets the chance to respond, especially when fear, modesty, or past rejection shapes the way we see ourselves. But Adam also brings an important balance to the lesson: just because you deserve a seat at the table does not mean every table is worth sitting at.

This conversation is about knowing your value, choosing spaces that align with who you are, and learning when to say yes with care and when to walk away with peace. Listeners will take away a thoughtful reminder that confidence is not only about entering the room; it is also about knowing whether that room is healthy, meaningful, and worth what it asks of you.

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CHAPTERS
00:00 Introduction And Welcome
00:22 Meet Adam Lee Spencer
00:42 Always Grant Yourself A Seat At The Table
01:44 Deserving To Be In The Room
02:46 Rejecting Yourself Before You Begin
03:27 Modesty, Fear, And Being Seen
05:10 When Fear Is Trying To Tell You Something
06:17 Choosing The Right Table
07:06 Newsletter Break
07:43 Knowing When A Table Is Not Worth It
08:11 Age, Rest, And Maturity
09:28 Trying Things To Discover What You Want
11:02 How The Quote Has Evolved
13:37 Service, Stoicism, And Showing Up With Purpose
15:33 Caring About The Platform You Are Invited Into
17:11 Final Advice From Adam
18:23 Where To Connect With Adam
19:11 Closing Reflection
19:29 Outro