Debunking the Myth of Automatic Intimacy

Marie and Adam tackle one of the biggest myths in relationships: that intimacy should just happen automatically. In this episode, they break down why waiting for spontaneous connection often leads to disappointment — and how intentional scheduling can actually increase spontaneity.

In this episode:

Good news check-in: 4th of July reflections and an exciting quarterly business meeting
The myth of "automatic intimacy" and where it comes from (hello, 90s rom-coms)
Why consent conversations are ongoing alignment discussions, not one-time talks
The different types of intimacy: intellectual, physical, and emotional — and knowing your own style
Why scheduling intimacy actually creates more spontaneity, not less
The importance of aftercare — even outside of BDSM contexts — for processing intimate experiences
What to do when only one partner is willing to have these conversations
Core values shout-outs: continuous growth and play

Key takeaway: Intimacy isn't something you're supposed to just "know." It requires ongoing, intentional conversation — about wants, needs, and boundaries — repeated often, not just once.

Resources mentioned:

Free weekly connection workbook for entrepreneurial couples (link in show notes)

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