More you Control, Less powerful you Feel?

Imagine steering a tiny dinghy in stormy seas. That's control. Now, picture yourself commanding a majestic yacht, gliding effortlessly over the waves. That's power. That’s this episode. In this episode CLG lays out the shortest, simplest pathway to the results you actually want: power, peace and presence with a special focus on parenting and daily life.

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In This Episode You’ll Learn:

• Parenting Insights: Essential tips for perfectionist parents on presence and power dynamics with children
• Recognizing the REAL reasons underneath your need for control and getting to the root of feeling safe
• Understanding the distinction between living in the present moment and being fixated on being happy the future
• E.P.I.C. Framework: Introducing the Embodied Presence Interoceptive Connection framework for perfectionists ready to live a calm, empowered and deliciously rich life.

Ep. 196 Timestamps

01:52-Understanding the impact of controlling perfectionistic tendencies on daily life
03:11-Felt Safety: Why your environment doesn't determine your safety and what does
05:53-Hidden motivations secretly fueling perfectionism anxiety
09:00-Mindfulness Strategies for ending Control Loops
10:42-Distinction between needing and wanting to do something
13:14-Perks of living in Present Time + enhancing perfectionist productivity
15:04-Being responsive instead of reactive
20:20-Your EPIC Framework: Practical tools for perfectionists to tune in + build permanent resilience

Truth + Accuracy in this Episode Provided By:

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Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.