252 Triad Life in a World of Couples with Margo, Jody & Chris

Relationships are messy, and when you re-imagine life with three instead of two, well, let's just say the complexity multiplies in ways you might not expect, even if you've been practicing non-monogamy for decades. So what does it actually take to build a throuple that both honors each person's individuality and creates a beautiful togetherness? And how do you navigate that when each person brings their own neurodivergence, relationship history, and vision of what love should look like?

This week, we're sitting down with Margo, Chris, and Jodi—affectionately known as "the Throupledom"—to talk about their journey of building a relationship that defies easy categorization. These three incredible humans are Year Of Opening® alums, and what unfolded inside their cohort was nothing short of transformative. They've experimented with living arrangements, deconstructed couples privilege from multiple angles, navigated different timelines of NRE wearing off, and created space for one partner to explore mono-amory while staying in a throuple.

If you've ever wondered whether it's possible to be in a committed multi-partner relationship while honoring radically different relationship orientations, or if you're curious about what it really takes to dismantle default relationship structures, this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we talk about:

— How Chris and Margo's 20+ years of "messy" non-monogamy didn't fully prepare them for the game-changing nature of this triad

— Why Jodi falling in love for the first time brought up all the "mono normie Disney princess brouhaha" neither of them expected

— The pivotal moment when Jodi admitted, "I was trying to break you two up," and how that radical honesty became a turning point

— How neurodivergence (ADHD, autism, PTSD) shapes each person's relationship needs and why recognizing these patterns was essential to their survival as a throuple

— The difference between bifurcating yourself across relationships versus showing up as your whole self—and why that shift was so challenging for Chris

— What happened when the NRE wore off at different times for different dyads (spoiler: it got really hard)

— How they've experimented with "multi-nesting" and why they've tried everything from all together in a one bedroom apartment to living separately five minutes apart

— Why taking breaks from each other wasn't a sign of failure but actually a crucial tool for growth

— The power of parts work (Internal Family Systems) in helping each person recognize patterns without shame

— How they're creating space for Jodi to explore monoamory within a thruple, and why that's not actually a contradiction

— The difference between equality and equanimity in relationships, and why that distinction was a game-changer

— Why they describe themselves as "scientists" in their relationship—constantly experimenting, adjusting, and trying again without attachment to any single outcome

— How psychedelic journeys helped Margo recognize the soul-level connection with Chris that gave her confidence to keep choosing this relationship

— What it means to find security not through conditionality (marriage, cohabitation, exclusivity) but through the ineffable thread that connects them

— Why "home" became such a complicated word for them, and how they're navigating the search for a shared physical space

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Music: Dance of Felt by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions