Intensity Isn't Intimacy

Intensity Isn't Intimacy

My boy asked me .. how do you tell the difference between intensity and actual intimacy (especially in a push/pull dynamic where it's hard to tell the difference)? I share my thoughts on what I feel the difference is and how to identify it. But before I get into that, I play a voice note from a girl who is navigating a similar situation about a guy who communicated his lack of certainty to her, and how she feels guilty for ending it so quickly. I'll share an update about my life, on staying away from safe connections, and reflecting on the pattern of dating women who have mostly approached me (and why I think that might not be the way).


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Chapters:

00:00 My New Approach to Dating

11:03 Voice Note: Dating the Right Person, Cut Him Off, Then Guilt Tripped

38:55 Intensity vs Actual Intimacy

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