Why do we want the people who don't want us?

Have you ever been completely obsessed with someone who was giving you the absolute bare minimum… then you end, a couple weeks go by and you think to yourself, “WTF was I thinking?” Same. And we need to talk about it.

This week, we’re going down the rabbit hole of rejection, validation, dating anxiety and the sneaky way your ego can turn romantic relationships into a competition where every text is a point, every delayed response is a loss and suddenly you’re fighting tooth and nail for someone you’re not even sure you like.

Emma is breaking down why rejection can make us want someone more, how to tell the difference between genuinely missing someone and just needing them to regret losing you, and the question that might save you from wasting six months trying to prove your worth to a person who was never aligned with the plot in the first place. Consider this your intervention: you need to stop asking, “How do I get them to choose me?” and start asking whether, it’s really them you want at all?

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