57. The Friendship Filter: Who Actually Deserves a Seat at Your Table?

57. The Friendship Filter: Who Actually Deserves a Seat at Your Table?

The people in your life are either building you up or breaking you down - and some of them are doing both.


In this episode, I'm going deep on the friendships that fuel a creative career and the ones quietly costing you your energy, your confidence, and your forward momentum. We cover the Friendship Shelf Theory, the must-have friend archetypes for creatives, and the draining ones you might be holding onto out of loyalty; not love. Plus, there's a study about ambivalent friendships and what they do to your nervous system that completely stopped me in my tracks when I read it.


If you've been feeling the stickiness in certain friendships lately this one is for you.



TIMESTAMPS

[00:00] — The hard truth about the people in your life

[01:00] — Why friendship is especially complicated for creatives

[02:00] — Alfred Adler's 3 universal life tasks (friendship is one of them)

[03:30] — The Friendship Shelf Theory explained

05:00] — The friends you NEED: the road dog, the one who gets it & the honest validator

[11:30] — The fun one, the collaborator & the nervous system regulator

[13:30] — The season of life match friend

[14:30] — Friends to watch out for: the ambivalent friend & the science that backs it

[16:30] — The gatekeeper, the one-upper & the energy vampire

[20:30] — The real cost of the wrong friendships for creatives

[21:30] — Normalizing friendship grief

[22:30] — Three questions to sit with




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