72. 7 Things I Told You to Give Up in 2021 | Revisiting My Own Advice 5 Years Later

Today I'm doing something a little different — I'm going back to an article I wrote for Medium in 2021 called "Seven Things to Give Up If You Want to Have a Healthier Mindset," and asking the question: does it still hold up five years later? What did I know then, and what have I actually had to learn the hard way since?

I go through all seven — trusting your first thought, absolutes, disempowering people, timelines, over-compromising, wanting to look smart, and constantly pushing through — and I'm sharing what still rings true, what I'd reframe now, and the real-life lessons (some of them humbling) that I've picked up in the years since I first wrote this. This one's a little bit of time travel and a lot of honest reflection on what mindset work actually looks like when you're living it instead of just writing about it.

In This Episode:

Revisiting my 2021 Medium article, five years later
Give up trusting your first thought — and why I still challenge mine every time
Give up absolutes — and the nuance I've learned since
Give up engaging with people who disempower you (and what to do when you can't just "lose their number")
Give up living on a timeline — why I'm tattooing this one on my brain
Give up compromising too much — and the deeper work of knowing my own values
Give up wanting to look smart — lessons from grad school and my acting class days
Give up constantly pushing through — rest vs. avoidance, and how to tell the difference
Why mindset work isn't something you learn once — it's something you keep re-learning at new levels

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