Episode 383: Medical Decision-Making in High-Conflict Co-Parenting with Dr. Madeleine Gagnon

After divorce, medical decisions don't stop. Kids still need vaccines, dental appointments, medications, evaluations, therapy, all of it. In high-conflict or parallel parenting, even basic healthcare decisions can become a new arena for control, misinformation, and sabotage. To help navigate this, I'm talking with board-certified pediatrician Dr. Madeline Gagnon, a complex care specialist who has worked with families at Boston Children's Hospital and other leading institutions.

We get into how kids get pulled into adult conflict without realizing it, what healthy conflict actually looks like between co-parents, and what child-centered medical decision-making means when parents don't agree. We also tackle a question that comes up constantly: if you're going to keep fighting these battles anyway, shouldn't you just stay in the marriage? It's a conversation about knowing what's worth going to bat for, what isn't, and how to keep your kids at the center.

What you'll hear about in this episode:

• What child-centered medical decision-making looks like when you and your co-parent don't agree (3:49)

• How triangulation shows up in divorced families, often more subtly than you'd expect, and how kids get pulled into it without even realizing what's happening (17:44)

• Whether staying together just to keep the peace and avoid future battles is really the safer choice for your kids (28:23)

• Wisdom for the mom who feels like she's fighting an uphill battle just to get her kid the care they need (44:13)

• What healthy conflict actually looks like between exes, and how to move toward it instead of away from it (46:54)

Learn more about Dr. Madeleine Gagnon:

Dr. Madeleine Gagnon is a board-certified pediatrician, qualified neutral mediator, and advocate for family communication and conflict resolution. A graduate of Georgetown University School of Medicine, she has worked for leading institutions including Boston Children's Hospital.

She is the founder of BRIDGE Health Consulting, which helps families navigate conflict, grief, trauma, and life transitions; PULSE, a social initiative for teens and their parents that promotes communication and confidence through mentorship and social media; and BRIDGE To Home, which provides in-home support services for individuals with disabilities and mental health needs.

Through years of work spanning both the clinic and community, Dr. Gagnon delivers practical, real-world approaches to everyday challenges that resonate meaningfully with parents, children, and teens alike.

A trusted voice on parenting, adolescence, and family dynamics, Dr. Gagnon is frequently featured as a medical expert on network television and public radio affiliates.

Resources & Links:

• Kate Anthony's Complete Parenting Plan

• Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate

• The Divorce Strategy Toolkit

• Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective

• Kate on Instagram

• Kate on Facebook

• Kate's Substack Newsletter: Divorce Coaching Dispatch

• Episodes are also available YouTube!

• Seven Step Mindset Reset for Divorce

• Listeners can exclusively book a free 15–20 minute Parent Strategy Call with Dr. Gagnon

• Dr. Gagnon's website

• Dr. Gagnon on Instagram (Resources for Parents)

• Dr. Gagnon on Instagram (Resources for Teens)

• Dr. Gagnon on Instagram

• Dr. Gagnon on Facebook

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