S3 E2 - YOU are the one that GLITTERS | Not Letting Hate Win | Finding My (Gentle) Alpha Energy

[Audio Diary Recorded 10.3.25]

PDF’s to help you be YOU on social media: www.TheOneThatGlitters.com (and cool merch)

In this brutally honest episode, I'm confessing the depressing podcast reality as of November 2025 (which hopefully are VERY different than when this podcast comes out!) while having a massive breakthrough about my social media theme: am I gonna let hate win, fear win, or trolls dictate my life? After teaching swim lessons, I'm literally screaming in my car about being done with false beliefs people projected onto me, realizing I'm becoming an alpha again—but this time with grounded calm energy instead of that high-frequency excitement that used to bump people the wrong way. Turns out my core wounds didn't come from childhood but from moving to LA and letting insecure people squash my shine when I was booking things with blissful unawareness, and now I'm standing in my closet next to broken masking-taped shelves trying to say "I am the one that glitters, and so are you" without completely cringing.

Key Themes & Takeaways:

• The depressing reality of early metrics - "Between 7 and 13 people listen to each episode, 15 total subscribers, and yes it's depressing but I'm looking at it scientifically to see what audiences are gaining"

• Social media theme breakthrough: not letting hate win - "Am I gonna let hate win? Am I gonna let fear win? Am I gonna let trolls dictate what I do or do not do in life?"

• Alpha animal fight metaphor - "In the wild if a non-alpha goes up against an alpha and gets in a fight, even if they lose they are now an alpha - this year has been my year to turn back into an alpha but a very gentle calm alpha"

• High frequency vs low frequency grounded energy - "Before I had alphaness but it came with high frequency excitement energy that bumped people, now it's low frequency grounded calm knowingness you get as you get older"

• Core wounds from LA not childhood - "My wounds come from when I moved to LA and started allowing myself to get squashed by people - I had blissful unawareness booking things easily and I allowed other people's fear and insecurity to really degrade that"

• The shine that angers insecure people - "We all have a shine and when we allow ourselves to shine other people get angered and want to squash that because maybe they're insecure"

• "I am the one that glitters and so are you" - Cringing while saying this out loud standing in closet but finally accepting it's okay to feel worthy of success without taking away from others

• Better when witnessed than alone - "I always felt like I'm better when witnessed, my witness state is a better state than my alone state, being seen makes some people uncomfortable but I like it"

• Quantum physics mirror effect - "On a quantum level when you feel different about yourself everything switches, people react to you differently because you react to yourself differently"

• Opening vs closing image progress - "Opening image: me curled up crying with terrible rash all over body. Closing image: me floating expansive in closet (or ideally on mountain edge looking up to heavens feeling free)"