John Ball: The Closet Gets A Better Outfit

John Ball: The Closet Gets A Better Outfit

John Ball came out years ago. That was not the hard part. The hard part was the second closet he built after, the professional one, where he learned to shrink, soften, and stay palatable so nobody in the room got uncomfortable. Ball breaks down how stand-up comedy taught him that boundaries do not make people leave, they make the right people stay, and how a room-sharing standoff with his family in Spain became the moment he stopped editing himself. This kicks off Gay in the Gayborhood, a new interview series pulling back the curtain on the men behind the mic. This one is for the man still performing comfortable. Key Takeaways
  • Coming out does not end the shrinking, it just moves it into new rooms
  • Boundaries do not make people leave, they make the right people stay
  • Stand-up comedy taught John Ball more about authenticity than any stage training ever did
  • Making other people comfortable at your own expense is a pattern, not a personality trait
  • This episode launches Gay in the Gayborhood, a new interview series featuring the men behind the mic
  • The moment John stopped hiding was not on a stage, it was a conversation with his family in Spain

About John

John is a Keynote & Presentation coach who turns competent speakers into captivating ones. He works with professional speakers, coaches, and leadership teams who are done blending in.

He hosts the Professional Speaking podcast for speakers who want to be known, booked, and paid what they're worth, and co-hosts The Coaching Clinic with his good friend Angie. His LinkedIn newsletter, Serious About Speaking, is exactly as punchy as it sounds.

John spent over 15 years as lead online coach and trainer for T. Harv Eker, and years on the coaching team at The Speaker Lab helping professional speakers get booked and paid. Before any of that, he was a flight attendant with British Airways, a bar manager, and a door-to-door salesman. He's got stories. He says the NSFW ones aren't for the show. Don't believe him.

He's also a working stand-up comic, an open mic addict, and runs workshops for new comedians. Underneath the cheekiness is someone who takes communication, integrity, and leadership seriously. Practicing Stoic, meditator, still doesn't take life too seriously.

Connect With John Website Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community

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