302. How Do You Know If You’re In a Healthy Relationship?

How do you actually know if you’re in a healthy relationship? In this episode, I’m breaking down the four pillars I believe healthy relationships are built on: responsiveness, safety, freedom, and connection. We’ll talk about what each one actually looks like, where we tend to get it wrong, and how you can start building these qualities from the very beginning of dating.

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What it really means to feel understood and cared for by your partner
Why validation doesn’t mean agreeing with everything your partner says
How to tell the difference between relationship safety and simply avoiding conflict
Why calm and steadiness aren’t signs that something is missing
How independence and freedom can actually strengthen your relationship
Why your partner shouldn’t have to be your entire support system
How small everyday “bids for connection” build intimacy over time
What to look for in early dating if you want to build a healthy long-term relationship
Four questions you can ask yourself to assess the health of your relationship

Plus, I answer a Dating Dilemma from a listener wondering whether she should give a promising connection more time or whether she’s already trying too hard to manage her way into compatibility.

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