186: Stop Chasing. See What Happens When You Let Go.

Episode mentioned: The Bossticks with Margarita Nazarenko

Peep the comments on the IG Reel that sparked this conversation

Books mentioned:

Unbothered by Margarita Nazarenko

The New Rules by Margarita Nazarenko

To learn more about Margarita Nazarenko, visit https://www.margaritanazarenko.com

Welcome back to Being Her, where today it’s getting juicy, spicy and real life. Margarita is launching her new Substack, Unfiltered with Margarita, and using a viral moment from her recent appearance on The Bossticks to unpack why so many women feel burnt out, frazzled and in constant conflict with the people they love. When a clip about her husband forgetting the diapers in Las Vegas blew up online, the comment section revealed something bigger: women are carrying loads that were never theirs to carry. In this episode, Margarita breaks down the psychology of over-functioning, the difference between caring and controlling, and why stepping back and letting natural consequences play out can transform your relationships. She gets candid about her own over-functioning roots as the child of an immigrant, the mental load, catastrophizing, and why being unbothered means knowing exactly what deserves your energy. As always, 10 takeaways and 10 actionable steps.

In this episode:

1. Stop turning inconveniences into emergencies

2. You are not an emergency service for every adult in your life

3. The psychology of over functioning in a family system

4. Stop confusing caring with controlling

5. Consequences are often the best teacher, stop removing them

6. Your nervous system does not know you are arguing about small things

7. Stop treating every mistake as evidence of something bigger

8. Women are exhausted from monitoring everything

9. You cannot complain about carrying everything while refusing to put it down

10. Being unbothered means knowing what actually deserves your energy

If you do everything and nobody notices, if you correct how everyone else does things because your way is right, or if you are exhausted but cannot actually let go, this one is going to hit home.

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