How to transition from vanilla marriages and LTR's to Ds-S03E07

Recorded: 8/16/2020 / Published: 1/15/2021
- Call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com

- In this episode of The Krypt, Babylove is joining me and Mayfair to tell her story and give advice about how to transition from a vanilla marriage or relationship into a D/s dynamic.

- Rules to Love by:
1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young

How to transition from vanilla marriages/long term relationships to D/s with BabyLove
- Only my experience, every couple will be different.
- What is Power Exchange
- What isn’t PE- it’s not abuse, it’s not domineering, it’s not a doormat
- While PE falls under BDSM, isn’t just about kinky fun.
- Equals in an uneven relationship (find the wording for this)
- Talk. Introduce slowly, Check-in. Go slow. Trial run, Find resources. Engage with other PE couples. Talk some more. Get used to being uncomfortable, vulnerable, and transparent with each other. Talk more. Be ready to discover things about yourself that you love and that you don’t. Talk more.
- Pick 3-4 things you would like to try out in your dynamic. This is what we added first.
- Check In’s: We learned this tip from Master Kuldrin! Set aside a consistent and
- intentional time to check-in. During this time the PE is temporarily suspended to allow for both sides to be able to freely express themselves without fear of stepping on each other’s toes.
- Questions for check-ins:
- Looking back at my journals, this is where some of the nitty gritty got sorted out. Me asking if he wanted me to anticipate his tea or wait for him to indicate. Him affirming to me that I was helping to relieve his stress home load
- Trial period:
- Resources: PE relationships are intense and a lot of work. We found it helped to find resources that reflected our relationship.
- Sir’s Self-acceptance: He said he has done a lot more soul searching than expected. By talking to other Doms, listening to podcasts, attending power exchange workshops, he was able to move past his preconceived notions that being a dom doesn’t make him an ass. Being a Dom plays right into his leadership style of empowering others
- Empowered him at work to also lead and speak out
- My self-acceptance: For me, it’s been accepting that serving and following Him makes me happy gives me structure.

- Important Links:
- https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon
- https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication
- https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/survey
- https://kuldrinskrypt.com/TeePublic
- Show notes can be found at https://kuldrinskrypt.com/307

- Show Producers:
Benefactor ($2,000/month):
Pro Producer ($100/month):
Master Producer ($50/month):
Executive Producer ($25/month) ShadowyFox, JunicornsAngel, and Johnny Ferrell, Haru Webb, and Rei Webb
Sr. Producers ($10/month): Matt, xEmeraldxWolfx, Roxiebear, Trouble113, ThatPlace: Oklahoma City, JayKay, Master Gabriel, babylove&Sir, Sir Pent, PurplePantera, SortOutTheKinks, Daddy Steve, Stella, CIVLdisobedience, and Grog4life, Raefe, and AuthorMistressBlackrose
Producers ($5/month): Kainsin, Alexandria, LilyChaos, KJ, knot_the_daddy, Duckie Monroe, ArtKitten, Hadea, Sir&Kitten, Raven, Raider69, Carly, and Atsila Rose
Jr. Producers ($1/month): K-2SO, Morgana13, and Jeremiah
Become a show producer: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/Patreon

- Vendors I know, like, trust, and use: (None of these are paid sponsors of the podcast.)
- http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.
- http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys.
- http://www.torridtimber.com/ - Fine fetish furniture and accessories
- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheCraftyHedonist - Bringing Geeky fantasies to life
- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2350280868612699 - Tink’s Toys

- Contact info:
- Email: MasterKuldrin@gmail.com
- Fetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275
- Fb: Kuldrin Fire https://www.facebook.com/kuldrin.fire
- Twitter: @MasterKuldrin https://twitter.com/MasterKuldrin
- Instagram: masterkuldrin https://www.instagram.com/masterkuldrin/
- Patreon: kuldrinskrypt https://www.patreon.com/KuldrinsKrypt
- Paypal: MasterKuldrin http://paypal.me/masterkuldrin
- http://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresource
- Limits and Interest Survey: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/survey