EP348 - Decoding Desire: Erotic Equation Explained

Welcome to episode 184 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to welcome Janis Roszler & Donna Rice to the podcast. In this episode they speak with me about their new book Intimacy & Diabetes, the common challenges people face around sexuality and diabetes, removing shame from diabetes and navigating your sense of fun and spontaneity with a chronic illness.    Romantic relationships play an important role in our everyday lives. But when diabetes enters the picture, it can complicate even the most loving and open relationships. Many people don’t know that diabetes can impact physical and emotional intimacy—and intimacy-related issues can be especially difficult to discuss with a partner or a doctor. But don’t let diabetes hinder the romance! Intimacy & Diabetes is here to give you practical information and expert advice to tackle this sensitive subject. This comprehensive, interactive guide covers everything you need to know to enjoy a fulfilling sexual and emotional life despite the challenges of diabetes. Inside you’ll find:     The common physical and emotional sexual complications of diabetes and treatment options for men and women An overview of diabetes nutrition, physical activity, weight loss, and diabetes medications Information on how aging impacts diabetes management and intimacy Guidance on how to talk to your doctor about intimacy-related issues Ideas and techniques for building sexual intimacy and communicating effectively with your partner Tips to help you avoid dangerous or money-wasting fraudulent sexual treatments A collection of delicious, diabetes-friendly recipes to help spice up your love life.      Authors Janis Roszler and Donna Rice use humor, helpful examples, and insightful questions to present key topics about sexual health in an engaging, approachable way. This book is perfect for anyone (regardless of gender, sexual orientation, age, or health status) looking to rekindle intimacy with their partner or be proactive about their sexual and emotional wellbeing. Intimacy & Diabetes is your key to a happy, healthy intimate life with diabetes.    In this episode, you will hear:     How did Janis & Donna become interested in this topic?  Understanding the need for providers to bring up the conversation to clients   The common challenges people face around sexuality and diabetes   How many aspects of diabetes are based on genetics and not behavioral issues   Removing shame from diabetes   Dealing with blame around chronic illnesses   The challenges people face getting into a new relationship with diabetes   Navigating your sense of fun and spontaneity with diabetes   Looking at medications and their effectiveness       Download my new ebook for free here: https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/   Find Intimacy & Diabetes online:  https://www.amazon.com/Intimacy-Diabetes-Janis-Roszler-ebook/dp/B084DPG4T7    Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

7 Heinä 202035min

Welcome to episode 183 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Miss Couple to the podcast. In this episode Miss Couple speaks to me about wax play, incorporating wax play into your sexual make-up and maintaining your connectivity to sexuality.    Described by Playboy as “equal parts Betty Grable and ‘90s Ani DiFranco,” Miss Couple is a Sexual Empowerment Coach known for class, professionalism, and a forward-thinking mindset.     Miss Couple has been interviewed as an authority in the field by Cosmopolitan, VICE, People Magazine, The Daily Beast, Huffington Post, and numerous other media outlets.     She is best known for her psychological perspective on intimacy and her ability to make others feel comfortable discussing difficult topics. Miss Couple comes to the field of coaching with a diverse background and draws from the skill-sets that she has accumulated through her education in psychology, time as an award-winning ballroom dancing instructor, and experience as a world-renowned BDSM expert, to provide a well-rounded perspective.     Miss Couple is devoted to normalizing modalities of connection that have been obscured, ridiculed, or simply misunderstood. She caters to a variety of clients, from individuals looking to explore their sexuality or relationship with power, newlyweds looking to build a strong foundation, empty nesters looking to spice things up, couples who are navigating non-monogamy, and more. Through virtual coaching, she provides space to build trust so that clients feel comfortable sharing and receiving feedback. Her biggest goal is to help empower people to create relationships, and ultimately lives, they crave.     In this episode, you will hear:     How can people build confidence to have conversations around kink?   Understanding that whilst stimulating, porn is a production and not a reflection of reality   What is wax play?   Incorporating wax play into your sexual make-up   Learning how to do wax play safely   Exploring the power play dynamics around wax play   Using wax play for a greater sense of pleasure in a relationship   Maintaining your connectivity to sexuality   Ways you can prepare as a couple for successful wax play and other sexual experiences         101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    Find Miss Couple online:  https://misscouple.com    Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist        Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

30 Kesä 202026min

Welcome to episode 182 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Rhoda speaks with me about open relationships, recommendations on how you can start your journey into an open relationship and maintaining sexual safety.     Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb has been counseling and coaching individuals and couples in the area of human sexuality for over 28 years and in private practice for over 14 years specializing in open relationship styles (polyamory, swinging, designer relationships), BDSM, ABDL, kink and fetishes. She received her PhD in clinical sexology, is an AASECT certified sex therapist, clinical sexologist, and sexuality coach specializing in areas of alternative sexuality.      She published her first book in 2017 called, No More Hiding: Permission to love your sexual self. It is an innovative guide for those seeking help on how to be their authentic sexual self.     In 2019 she launched a training/coaching program called Monogamy to Open to provide those transitioning from monogamy to the many types of open relationships a path that will provide the knowledge and guidance necessary to be successful.     In this episode, you will hear:     The similarities and differences of open relationships?  Looking at some of the tough expectations of monogamy   What personality types opt for open relationships?  The pros and cons of open relationships  The differences between polyamory and swinging   How there is still a lot of social stigma around open relationships   Recommendations if you’re interested to start swinging  Understanding you can go at your own pace  How many people stay in swinging for the community   Recommendations for sexual safety through this journey         Find Dr. Rhoda online  Website: https://www.drrhoda.com  Private FB page for open relationships: Monogamy 2 Open  Calendly page for complementary 30-minute consult: Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb     Find me online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com      Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe     Take the Sex Quiz for Women here: https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz/   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

23 Kesä 202038min

Welcome to episode 181 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Tristan Taormino to the podcast. In this episode Tristan speaks with me about anal pleasure, how we can start our journeys into the world of anal play, recommendations on sex toys and understanding to not put pressure on yourself as you start this journey.      Tristan Taormino is a sex educator, media maker, and speaker. She is the author of eight books and editor of 25 anthologies including the award-winning The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women and The Ultimate Guide to Kink. She keynotes, lectures, and teaches workshops around the world on sexual pleasure and health, relationships, and social justice. She is the host of the long-running podcast Sex Out Loud. She is the creator of Sex Educator Boot Camp, a professional training program, and she runs a coaching and consulting business for sexuality professionals.     In this episode, you will hear:     How can you introduce anal pleasure into your sexual life?   Exploring anal sex as a couple   The myths and misconceptions around anal sex   How anal sex can be more intense than vaginal sex   What does anal play involve?  Recommendations for the best anal sex toys to use   How to make anal sex non-painful   Understanding to not compare yourself to porn stars   Learning the best practices for anal   How to start your journey into the world of anal   The best ways to communicate you’re interested in anal sex to your partner  The importance to take your time and not put pressure on yourself         Find Tristan online  http://sexoutloudradio.com   The Ultimate Guide To Anal Sex For Women     Find me online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com      Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       Download my new ebook for free here:    https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe      If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist       Celebrating One Million Downloads  To celebrate hitting one million downloads I am giving away a bottle of Uberlube to anyone who writes a review on iTunes. Simply take a screenshot of your review and email to me or send as a DM to my Instagram page. Thank you for helping Sexology Podcast hit one million downloads!    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

16 Kesä 202033min

Welcome to episode 180 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am pleased to welcome Dr. Sunny Motamedi to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Motamedi talks to me about how religion affects people’s sexuality, the connection between shame and religion and steps you can take to heal sexual shame.      Dr. Motamedi is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and has been blessed to be conducting therapy for 20 years. She has a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology and additional training in Marriage and Family Therapy. Throughout her training she has received training in a vast array of areas within psychology including trauma therapy, couples therapy, sex therapy and mindfulness.      Growing up in Iran, Dr. Motamedi has had a lifelong interest on the effects of culture and religion on sexuality.  She developed her unique method of body work that she uses on her clients, known as the Sunny Healing Method, a bottom-up approach.  She uses the body to release trauma from the tissue and different parts of the body through chakra opening, visualizations and affirmations.     Dr. Motamedi is actively practicing in California helping both couples and trauma survivors.     In this episode, you will hear:     How does religion affect people's sexuality?  The way in which religion can separate body and spirit  Looking at the connection between shame and religion   Seeking support and navigating through these issues   Steps you can take to heal sexual shame   Changes you’ll need to make in your life to make progress  How we can regulate our bodies   How a relationship can play a role in the healing process  Creating a safe space as a couple   Understanding the nature and beauty of truly seeing another person's soul   Determining what’s a good affirmation through this process         Find Dr. Motamedi online  https://www.sunnyhealingtherapy.com  https://www.instagram.com/drsunnymotamedi     Find me online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com      Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       Download my new ebook for free here:    https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe      If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist       Celebrating One Million Downloads  To celebrate hitting one million downloads I am giving away a bottle of Uberlube to anyone who writes a review on iTunes. Simply take a screenshot of your review and email to me or send as a DM to my Instagram page. Thank you for helping Sexology Podcast hit one million downloads!    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

9 Kesä 202032min

Welcome to episode 179 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Miklos Hargitay to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Hargitay speaks to me about the issues of when your partner is sexually assaulted, how couples can work through this together and understanding the importance of communication.      Dr. Miklos Hargitay earned his PsyD from William James College in Clinical Psychology and his BA from the University of California -Santa Barbara in Anthropology. Dr. Hargitay has specialized training in trauma-informed therapy with survivors of sexual violence.     He has diverse clinical experience, including work in crisis centers, college counselling, and medical settings. Dr. Hargitay is committed to helping adults talk through difficult emotions and topics with compassion and care, such as anxiety and depression, trauma, relationships, and sex.     In this episode, you will hear:     The common sexual symptoms survivors may experience   Why sexual desire may increase after an assault   Questions the partner might have if their partner is a victim of abuse   How couples can work through this together   Looking at sensate focus   Looking out for triggers and how to overcome them   Learning to deal with sexual frustration if your partner isn’t comfortable to have sex yet  The importance of the fidelity agreement   Learning how to best communicate with your partner about these issues      Find Dr. Hargitay online  https://www.mtcollective.org/  Transformative Power of Sensate Focus    Celebrating One Million Downloads To celebrate hitting one million downloads I am giving away a bottle of Uberlube to anyone who writes a review on iTunes. Simply take a screenshot of your review and email to me or send as a DM to my Instagram page. Thank you for helping Sexology Podcast hit one million downloads!     Find me online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com      Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       Download my new ebook for free here:    https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/      If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist       Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

1 Kesä 202027min

Welcome to episode 178 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Holly Richmond back to the podcast. In this episode she speaks with me about shame after sexual trauma, how survivors can regain their desire, learning to re-engage with positive sexual experiences and the importance of seeking out sex positive therapists.       Dr. Holly Richmond is a Somatic Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist (CST), and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT). She is one of North America’s leading sex therapists serving Hollywood’s elite as well as prominent corporate clientele, nationally and internationally. With offices in New York, Los Angeles and Portland, Dr. Holly is a trusted authority on sexual health issues with a significant media following.     She is regularly quoted in publications and media outlets including The New York Times, CNN, Shape, NBC, Wired, Forbes, Health, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, and Women’s Health. She is a sought-after consultant in the sex tech industry and is seen as a pioneer in bridging the gap between sexual health and entertainment. Dr. Holly’s ‘Next-Sex’ platform and forthcoming book reflect her keen interest in the exploration of sex and technology, and how they work together as human sexuality evolves in the 21st century.     In this episode, you will hear:     Why do survivors experience shame around sex?  Misconceptions around the causes of rape   How people feel sexual shame after trauma in their bodies?  Learning to show up for your body   Navigating having positive sexual experiences   Unhealthy habits survivors can pick up   How desire disappears as survivors restrict their sexuality   Looking at sexual dysfunctions   Why it’s important to seek out a sex positive therapist         Find Dr. Holly online  http://drhollyrichmond.com  http://www.next-sex.com   Episode 106 with Dr. Holly     Find me online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com      Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       Download my new ebook for free here:    https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe      If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist       Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

26 Touko 202033min

Welcome to episode 177 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Anita Johnson. In this episode, she speaks with me about the issues of body shame, how it affects people’s lives and learning to change your relationship with your body from within.      Anita Johnston, Ph.D., is a Depth Psychologist and author of Eating in the Light of the Moon, which has been published in six languages. She is the co-creator of the online course, Light of the Moon Café which is an interactive “workbook” and women’s support circle for Eating in the Light of the Moon, and she is the author of a book chapters and other professional journal articles.     She has been working in the field of women’s issues and disordered eating for over 35 years and is currently the Clinical Director of ‘Ai Pono Hawaii which has outpatient eating disorder programs in Honolulu, the Big Island of Hawaii, and a residential treatment program in Maui.     Dr. Johnston provides individual consultations online, and conducts Soul Hunger workshops and professional trainings around the world, using metaphor and storytelling, along with her training as a clinical psychologist, to address the complex issues that underlie struggles with eating, weight, and body image.     In this episode, you will hear:     How body image shame affects people's lives   The way in which young women are exposed to many forms of sex before their first kiss  How we internalize sexual messaging in today’s culture   Knowing that you can set the pace for your sexual life   Why sex gets better as you get older   Learning to change your relationship with your body from within   Why if somebody is making negative comments about you, it’s says more about them than you  How we’re overcoming generations of sexual conditioning      Find Dr. Anita online  http://www.DrAnitaJohnston.com  http://www.LightoftheMoonCafe.com  Schoolgirls; Young Women, Self-Esteem, and the Confidence Gap  Episode 42 with Anita     Take the Sex Quiz for Women here:  https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz/ Find me online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com      Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       Download my new ebook for free here:    https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe      If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist       Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

19 Touko 202042min