Negative Core Beliefs

Our beliefs systems are created in childhood as we shape a personality that is based on messages received from parents and surrounding cast. Abuse leaves victims with a core belief system that looks a whole lot like the following: “I am ugly, shameful, and therefore unworthy of love” “I am incompetent” “I am unintelligent” “I am worthless” The list goes on and on. The reason is that every act of abuse has along with it a deep hurtful message internalized by victims that says “you are being treated like this because this is who you are and what you deserve”. This belief system becomes the way a child and later adult sees themselves and eventually others in life and relationships. As you could imagine, it wreaks havoc on interpersonal relationship as it dictates the way a person will treat others and expects to be treated. With narcissistic abuse, perpetrator will look to instill these negative messages in victims to lower their sense of confidence and self worth making them more susceptible to abuse and prolonged use of narcissistic supply. What is your belief system? What negative messages internalized in childhood are dictating how you view life and therefore impacting your decision making?