Bonus: Film Review, Red Lights

Jake Vaughn from the Alt Worldly YouTube Channel talks about his waking up process from the Jehovah's Witnesses, and the difficulties associated with it, as well as his health challenges, complicated by his faith as a youth. The second half of the episode takes a different tack as we look at what could controversially be described as "the funny side of growing up in a cult". Support the podcast for $1:50 https://www.patreon.com/whatshouldithinkabout/posts   Jake's Channel Links  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfHydnkPDgYNCZiviuVVrkw My Craziest JW Field Service Story https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OjqCRwlTEk8

20 Helmi 20221h 11min

Do some born-in cult members experience greater harm than others because they happen to have certain personality traits? Psychology suggests that we inherit at least some of our personality traits through our genes. What are the implications for people raised in a cult? How does the presence of certain traits affect how we respond to cult indoctrination? This week Celine and Stephen look at how we research and understand individual differences, how much of these differences are down to our genes or environment, what this means for personal agency and how different traits might mean some cult 'born-ins' have a much worse time than others.  If you'd like to become a patron you can do so for just $1:50 a month https://www.patreon.com/whatshouldithinkabout   Bike and Psych  https://youtu.be/Q1k7G3Mt5ns   References Miell, D., Phoenix, A., & Thomas, K. (2002). Mapping psychology 1. The Open University. https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/basics/big-5-personality-traits

16 Helmi 20221h 8min

Erika Bornman, author of Mission of Malice talks to us about her life growing up in Kwasizabantu, a non-denominational Christian Group she describes as a cult. As a child and a young woman she endured physical and mental abuse, was groomed by her church 'counsellor' and witnessed horrendous abuses. In her early twenties she managed to escape but at great personal cost. Erika's story is emotional, touching and at times harrowing but at the heart of her story is a message of hope and of finding a way to make sense of life outside the confines of a controlling and damaging ideology. If you would like to become a patron you can for just $1:50 through our Patreon page. https://www.patreon.com/whatshouldithinkabout/posts   Erika's Book Mission of Malice https://www.amazon.com/Mission-Malice-My-Exodus-KwaSizabantu/dp/1776096231

13 Helmi 20221h 2min

Two completely different topics today on the podcast.    Time Stamp 00:00: Segment 1. The medical condition and psychological impact of serious acne and Stephen and Celine’s experience of this as children and adults.   Time Stamp 25:00: Segment 2. The Wasted Years: After leaving a cult or other high demand group it’s easy to look back and feel angry at the wasted years. Is there a way to work through this feeling? https://www.patreon.com/whatshouldithinkabout/   Acne information https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/acne/   Mental Health information https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/

9 Helmi 202259min

The guest today is Min Grob from CCChat Magazine. Min experienced a coercively controlling relationship and talks about the behaviours and methods used by perpetrators. This is a companion piece to this week's Gaslight episode.  Mom’s website https://coercivecontrol.co.uk/ Book referenced by Min Judith Herman, Trauma and Recovery https://www.amazon.co.uk/Trauma-Recovery-Aftermath-Violence-Political/dp/0465061710/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=11RG8FD38EYAX&keywords=trauma+and+recovery+judith+herman&qid=1644101397&sprefix=trauma+%2Caps%2C93&sr=8-1

6 Helmi 202258min

The 1940's film Gaslight about the systematic attack by a man on his wife's psychological wellbeing, provided us with the phrase gaslighting. Today Sarah joins Stephen to review the movie and to explore how this tactic is used in coercively controlling relationships and in cults.

2 Helmi 202247min

Darren Slade has a fascinating story. Although not raised in a religious household as a young person he loved religious studies and his ambition was to become a pastor and Christian apologist. An ambition he achieved until he started to doubt his beliefs. Today he is the President of The Center for Religious Research and an atheist. He talks about his life and his research into religious trauma as well as some of his other interests such as miracles and the ethics of a God who allows suffering. Would you like to support our podcast for just $1:50 per month? Get early access on many episodes and exclusive video content. https://www.patreon.com/whatshouldithinkabout   Global Center for Religious Studies https://www.gcrr.org/ Darren M Slade Website https://darrenmslade.academia.edu/

30 Tammi 202255min

What is science? How does it work? Can we trust it? Who does it? And can we trust the scientists? All this and more in today's big subject discussion. Plus a short and slightly bizarre Tweet of the Week.

26 Tammi 202254min