Lies Our Brain Tells Us w/ Amy Morin

Hey Besties! Today, for another reading session of Benson Book Club, we will take a peek into How to Win Friends & Influence People written by Dale Carnegie - a book about ways to make people like you, how to win people to your way of thinking, and how to change people without arousing resentment.Together with Violetta, we get to hear practical tips on winning people over instantly, incredible stories of people who mastered the art of being likable, and how to arm yourself with six foolproof strategies to make a lasting impression and cultivate meaningful connections. If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!What to Listen For:00:00 Intro01:26 How to make people like you instantly?07:36 The story of Hall Caine 11:37 “This is our dream house.”14:56 The judge who loves dogs16:29 Famous people still crave a little recognition22:33 Six ways to make people like youGet more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

2 Huhti 202426min

Hey Besties! We're diving headfirst into the complexities of self-sabotage. Why do we often self-sabotage? How do we snap out of the self-defeat funk? Embrace the beauty of failure, kick negative thinking to the curb, and discover 18 tips to boost your spirits. It's all about flipping the script, surrounding yourself with positive vibes, and quitting the blame game. Get ready to transform your perspective and sprinkle some fab into your life! If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!Today’s Sponsors:CBDistillery - Visit www.cbdistillery.com and use code ADULTING for 20% off.Glamsquad - For a limited time, Glamsquad is giving our listeners $20 odd any service. It's valid whether or not you've booked with them before. Visit https://glamsquad.com/ or the Glamsquad app and use code ADULTING at checkout.Nuuly - Nuuly is a great value at $98 a month for any 6 styles, but right now you can get $20 off your first month of Nuuly when you sign up with the code ADULTING20. Just go to https://www.nuuly.com/What to Listen For:00:00 Intro01:20 Why do we self sabotage?04:02 How to stop this cycle of self defeat?07:05 Sometimes, failure is good11:39 When we sink into negative thinking our brain seeks to confirm it14:23 How do you stay motivated during hard times?19:48 How to change your perspective24:20 18 quick advice to cheer you up28:18 Surround yourself with positivity31:08 We often blame our circumstances Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

28 Maalis 202446min

Hey Besties! Welcome to Benson Book Club! Today, Violetta will be reading a part of Chapter 19: When To Have Sex from the book Men Don’t Love Women Like You! by G.L Lambert, and will be sharing her thoughts on when to take things to the bedroom, decoding men's real dating agendas, and identifying the tell-tale signs of true romantic victory. Ever regretted going too far, too fast? We're breaking it all down and guiding you to date on your own terms. Let's get real about romance, empowerment, and finding what truly clicks for you in the world of love!If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!Today’s Sponsors:Factor - Head to factormeals.com/ADULTING50 and use code ADULTING50 to get 50% off.What to Listen For:00:00 Intro02:53 Chapter 19: When To Have Sex 03:28 “I wish I never had s*x with him.”06:44 Why do men date?09:58 What has he shown you?13:14 Signs you’ve genuinely won a man over16:33 Can you enjoy each others company without s*x?19:19 Focus on what works for you Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

26 Maalis 202425min

Hey Besties! Welcome to episode TWO of Dating University available ONLY on the PREMIUM podcast.Violetta is going to get real about everything from pimple patches to our 'pick me' girl pasts. It's all about embracing your fabulous self, finding that rock-solid confidence, and saying goodbye to people and habits that just don't spark joy anymore. And let's chat about relationships - why it's crucial to know what you want and how not to fall for those oh-so-tempting but totally empty flatteries. Remember, comparison is the thief of joy, especially when it comes to other women. So, let's believe in our own allure and walk this journey of self-love and empowerment together. This series lives EXCLUSIVELY on my premium channel, so to listen to the FULL episode, make sure to subscribe and catch it here - https://almostadulting.supercast.com/See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

24 Maalis 202417min

Hey Besties! Today, we get to listen to the second half of Violetta’s conversation with Sarah Baldwin. Sarah is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Trauma-informed Life Coach dedicated to supporting individuals in understanding their reactions, feelings, and patterns, emphasizing that these are not indicative of anything wrong, but rather everything being right with the person. Violetta and Sarah will dig deep into what it means to have an anxious or avoidant attachment style, how to overcome it, and how it can potentially affect your current and future relationships. Discover how your nervous system is the puppeteer of your relationships, unravel the mysteries of anxious and avoidant attachments, and get the lowdown on why opposites attract but might not always stick. Learn the golden rules of relationship arguments, decode the dynamic dance between different attachment styles, and embrace the bravest steps towards love. Whether you're anxiously engaged or coolly detached, it's time to understand, set boundaries, and find out why, in the game of love, we're all wonderfully complex.If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!Today’s Sponsors:Nutrafol - Find out why over 4,000 healthcare professionals recommend Nutrafol for healthier hair. Visit https://nutrafol.com/ and use promo code ADULTINGEpisode Highlights:00:00 Intro00:24 How does your nervous system affect your relationships?02:04 How does Anxious Attachment style develop?03:47 How does Avoidant Attachment style develop?05:18 What should you do if you have avoidant attachment?10:39 What should you do if you have anxious attachment? 12:39 Anxious and avoidant attachment attract each other17:22 The golden rule: Two dysregulated people can’t solve an argument20:41 Most common dynamic between anxious and avoidant people21:37 We can be both avoidant and anxious24:03 Why both avoidantly and anxiously attached people are often misunderstood 28:14 We need to learn to understand each other30:04 A lot of us feel we’re so f*cked up35:46 What is the bravest thing an avoidant person can do in a relationship?37:26 Can an avoidant and anxiously attached person have a relationship?40:56 Fear and excitement have the same somatic sensory response44:32 The people we need to set boundaries will resist those boundaries the most48:12 When to know that the other person is not yet safe for you to be in a relationship with55:16 We all make sense and there’s nothing wrong with usConnect with Sarah on:https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/ https://www.facebook.com/Sarahbaldwincoaching/ https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/ Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

21 Maalis 20241h 2min

Hello and welcome to the Violetta's diary series available on my PREMIUM PODCAST!! Where I share my random thoughts with no cuts, no edits, no notes, no pre planning, no nothing. Just the two of us naked and honest with each other.Today we dive into sliding into dm's, my intrusive thoughts and lots more.This series lives EXCLUSIVELY on my premium channel, so to listen to the FULL episode, make sure to subscribe and catch it here - https://almostadulting.supercast.com/See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

20 Maalis 202415min

Hey Besties! Welcome to another Benson Book Club Tuesday! It’s been a favorite so we will discuss another chapter of 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think by Brianna Wiest - a collection of the author’s most beloved pieces of writing. Violetta dives into a heartfelt exploration of the transient nature of relationships, where we ponder the journey from being strangers to becoming lovers, and sometimes, strangers once again. This podcast delves into the gratitude we owe to those who've departed from our lives, the insights gained from lost love, and the realization that every encounter has its purpose, often serving as a lesson in our personal growth. Through stories and reflections, we uncover the essence of our connections, learning to appreciate every moment and person as part of our life's evolving narrative.If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!Today’s Sponsors:Truly - To find Truly Hard Seltzer near you, go to www.trulyhardseltzer.com/locationsShopify - Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at www.shopify.com/adultingSkims - Shop SKIMS Bras at https://skims.com/. Now available in 62 sizes. Plus, get free shipping on orders over $75!What to Listen For:00:00 Intro01:47 How we go from lovers to strangers04:50 We all start as strangers05:59 Why should we be thankful for the people who left?10:48 What do people who have lost love know?19:16 The purpose of our relationships is…22:49 One day, you’ll realize that they were just a lesson Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

19 Maalis 202433min

Hey Besties! Let’s welcome Alex Bennett and Jordyn Woodruff, the duo behind the Mean Girl podcast. In the show, these two come together for honest conversations about sex, friendship, mental health, and living in the big city as outsiders.Violetta, Alex, and Jordyn didn’t hold back as they talked about what makes friendships last, setting boundaries (because, hello, we need space!), and why growing apart might just mean you're growing up. Ever wonder how to navigate friendships when life stages change or how to detox from toxic pals? We've got you covered! Plus, get the scoop on making friends in your fabulous late 20s. Because, let's face it, friends are the family we choose, and it's never too late to add to your tribe!If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!Today’s Sponsors:Talkspace - As a listener to this podcast, you'll get $80 off of your first month with Talkspace when you go to https://www.talkspace.com/.Glamsquad - For a limited time, Glamsquad is giving our listeners $20 odd any service. It's valid whether or not you've booked with them before. Visit https://glamsquad.com/ or the Glamsquad app and use code ADULTING at checkout.Episode Highlights:00:00 Intro01:36 How’s LA?03:59 Do you make friends easily?04:21 How has making friends changed over the years?07:44 People who are able to maintain lasting friendships are green flags09:51 Does it matter how long you’ve been friends?15:31 How do you define a good friend?18:07 Scared to rely on friends too much21:29 Create boundaries with your friends23:24 Friendships growing apart as you mature32:36 If you’re not growing apart, you’re not growing up35:20 Do you stay friends with your married friends?39:42 Have you experienced a toxic friendship?43:06 Choose your friends who will say your name in a room full of opportunities44:28 Gossiping is false friendship bonding48:46 If you constantly talk about other people and nothing else54:51 How did you realize it was toxic?59:30 She’s my BFF but she stole my ex01:05:06 What did you learn from a toxic friendship?01:07:31 How to heal from a friendship breakup01:15:11 How to make new friends in your late 20s01:16:43 You will continue to make friends your entire lifeConnect with Mean Girl on:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVGd0eUpf67iwp7K84wTJnQ https://www.instagram.com/meangirlpod https://twitter.com/meangirlpod Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

14 Maalis 20241h 24min