Wanting vs Committed

Wanting vs Committed

- Do you really want to or is there a part of you that isn’t willing to let it go yet? - Choosing to do this on purpose. - Not waiting until you never look at porn to have the confidence to be a free person - Commitment vs wanting – if you want something that doesn’t mean you will be able to get it. - To want is to desire or wish for something – there is no action required – it is passive - Wanting is really easy – all you have to do is think “I want this” - There is no risk involved. - It doesn’t require anything of us. - Saying “I want to stop looking at porn” isn’t going to get it done - It increases desire without any positive results – which can create a negative result in that you think you are doing something without results – - - When we think we are doing something without results we are creating failures - This is proof in our heads that we are failing. - - When we want something but aren’t doing anything to get it we are creating a gap that our brain tells us is insurmountable. - - When we are committed we promise to do something. - Have you ever said to someone, “I’m going to get this done”. Whether is was, going into a certain profession or building something that you had no experience doing? - As you go through that process, in your mind, you never waver. - - You know it is going to happen no matter what. - - That is committed. - - Action is required – until you get to the place you want to be. - - You aren’t waiting for it to happen before you believe in it. - - Being committed is uncomfortable and challenging. - - It also gets results - - You will have to do things differently and think about circumstances differently - You have to see the world differently than you do now to make that thing happen - A really simple example of this in my life has been becoming a podcaster. - I had no idea how to podcast 6 months ago. - It wasn’t even on my radar. - Then I wanted to be a podcaster because I thought it would be a great way to get the message out that there is help and there is a way forward for people who struggle. - But that didn’t make me a podcaster. - For months before I really committed to doing it I wanted it and I thought about it and I...

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