EP386 - Experts Advice on Male Sexual Health

Welcome to episode 176 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Dr. Carolina Pataky to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Carolina speaks to me about virtual sex, ways in which people are having virtual sex in 2020, the importance of security and privacy and how to keep virtual sex playful.      Co-founder of the Love Discovery Institute, Dr. Carolina Pataky is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Clinical Sexologist and Certified Sex Therapist. Recognized as one of South Florida’s leading authorities on intimacy, relationships and self-discovery. Her focus is to give individuals and couples of any sexual preference the tools to learn how to love themselves unconditionally, receive love, and create fulfilling and joyful relationships that will last a lifetime. Through private sessions, couples’ intensives and luxury retreats, she provides individual and couples coaching sessions, sex therapy, and psychotherapy practices that support clients through the journey of finding the right path to healthy love.        In This Episode You Will Hear:     How are people having virtual sex in 2020?  Knowing when it’s a good time to initiate virtual sex with a new partner?  Why it’s important to not assume what your partner may or may not feel around virtual sex   Overcoming fear of rejection   Setting yourself up for success   Looking at security and privacy issues, when is the right time to trust a new partner?  How to keep virtual sex playful and fun   Why less is more when it comes to virtual sex   Overcoming being self-conscious on camera   How to not have awkwardness after climaxing on a virtual sex call        Find Dr. Carolina here:    https://www.lovediscovery.org   https://twitter.com/carolinapataky     Find me online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com      Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       Download my new ebook for free here:    https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe      If you are interested in booking a video counseling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist       Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

12 Touko 202042min

Welcome to episode 175 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Amir Mohebbi to the podcast. In this episode Amir speaks with me about sex and medicine, looking at the side effects medications can have on your sex life and how to approach this issue with your physician.    Amir Mohebbi is a proud Iranian-American currently completing his psychiatry residency at St. Louis University. He trained under mentorship from world-renowned forensic psychiatrists, Drs. William J. Newman and Brian J. Holoyda, whom co=authored a review related to his interests in sleep medicine and forensics entitled “Sexsomnia as a Defense in Repeated Sex Crimes”.     Amir presented his work alongside an expert panel consisting of forensic psychiatrists at the American Psychiatric Association 175th Annual Meeting in San Francisco, CA. He earned his medical degree from St. Louis University and holds a Bachelor of Science degree in Biology from the University of California, Irvine.     In This Episode You Will Hear:     How common is it for anti-depressants to cause issues with sexuality?   Learning to accept medication as part of your sexual makeup   Taking a look at psychiatric medicines   Do men and women get the same side effects from medication?   How sex and masturbation can be used as a coping strategy   Looking at the side effects medicine can have on your sex life   The importance of finding the correct information in this area   How to approach this issue with a physician        Find Amir here:    EP163 – Sexsomonia      Find me online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com      Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       Download my new ebook for free here:    https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe      If you are interested in booking a video counseling session with Dr. Moali: https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist       Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

5 Touko 202035min

Welcome to episode 174 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I delve into the subject of experiencing orgasms, overcoming performance anxiety, the importance of communication and steps you can take to improve your orgasms.      In This Episode You Will Hear:     How anyone can achieve having great orgasms   Cultural factors that play into this issue   Steps you can take to improve orgasms   Analyzing how long this has been a problem  How a lack of sex education can lead to issues with orgasms   Are you getting aroused during sex?  Looking at the quality of your relationship with your partner   Can medication affect sexual performance?   How ageing affects our sex drive   The ways in which mental health can affect orgasms   The importance of giving good sexual feedback  Wanting to explore sexual areas your partner doesn’t   Learning to properly understand your body  Overcoming performance anxiety   Improving your communication skills           Resources:  Sex & Recreational Drug Use  Becoming Cliterate  Come As You Are     Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

28 Huhti 202025min

Welcome to episode 173 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Dr. Rachel Needle to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Needle speaks with me about threesomes, how common fantasizing about them is, learning to manage your emotions and being honest about your motivation.      Dr. Rachel Needle is the founder and Executive Director of the Whole Health Psychological Center. She is a Licensed Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist, and an entrepreneur. Dr. Needle has specialized training in the areas of Substance Use Disorder, Trauma, Sex, and Relationships. She received her M.S. and Psy.D. in clinical psychology from Nova Southeastern University, her B.A. in psychology from Barnard College, Columbia University, and completed an internship in clinical psychology at University of Medicine and Dentistry of New Jersey: Robert Wood Medical School in Piscataway, New Jersey.     Dr. Needle is an Adjunct Professor of Psychology in the Department of Behavioral Sciences, in the Masters in Forensic Psychology, and in the Doctorate in Criminal Justice programs at Nova Southeastern University. She is the founder and CEO of the Advanced Mental Health Training Institute and Co-Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes which provide continuing education, certifications, and a Ph.D. in Clinical Sexology to Mental Health and Medical professionals and Sex Therapists around the world.     Dr. Needle has presented her research and clinical work at national and international conferences. She is often interviewed by and quoted in national media outlets. She has been featured in a number of popular magazines such as Details, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, Details, and Shape, and papers including the Washington Post and the Palm Beach Post. She has written several articles for Glamour Magazine’s online Blog: Smitten.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     How common are threesome fantasies?   Deciding when it’s a good time to act on these fantasies   The way in which we have a blurred view of threesomes because of porn   Learning to manage your emotions   Understanding the challenges of having a threesome   How the fantasy might be more attractive than the reality   Where to find a third partner   Recommendations for managing jealousy around threesomes   Being honest about your motivation   Understanding it’s a process and not to give up if you didn’t enjoy the first time         Find Dr. Needle here:   www.drrachel.com  www.modernsextherapyinstitutes.com     Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested in booking a video counseling session with Dr. Moali: https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

21 Huhti 202030min

Welcome to this bonus episode of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Barry Davis to the podcast. In this episode Barry speaks with me about how we can better manage as couples being in lockdown, tips for those who are struggling and what we can all do as frustration starts to build up.     Divorce Mediator, Barry Davis has been a full-time mediator since 2003 and specializes in working with divorcing couples. His passion for helping couples through this difficult time, his extensive mediation and counseling training (including two advanced degrees) and his fifteen years as a businessperson, equip him to deal with both the practical and the emotional aspects of divorce.      His approach is to assist couples in working through their specific issues as constructively as possible by helping them minimize negative tactics, emphasize productive ways to make decisions and focus on the big picture (such as the best interests of the children and/or not wasting a couple’s entire net worth on a costly court battle). By utilizing a multi-faceted approach that includes identifying the couple’s true issues and concerns, facilitating productive communication and educating the couple concerning possible outcomes, Barry has been able to achieve success in the majority of mediations he facilitates.     After completing an undergraduate degree in sociology at University of California, Santa Barbara, Barry embarked on a thirteen-year career in the telecommunications industry where he established a track record of success in sales management, marketing and business development with the two industry leaders, AT&T and MCI.   Education Institute.     In This Episode You Will Hear:     How we can better manage being in lockdown as a couple?   The challenges relationships will face being in a confined space   Looking at what distinguishes negative conflict   Tips for couples who are struggling with lockdown   What we can all do as frustration starts to build up   Thoughts on potential separations that could happen during lockdown   How some couples might be able to use the time to turn things around  Recommendations for couples who want to get through this positively     To download the conflict management worksheet, click here.   Find Barry here:   https://davismediation.com   Man’s Search For Meaning    Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested in booking a video counseling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

17 Huhti 202038min

Welcome to episode 172 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am thrilled to welcome Marla Renee Stewart, MA to the podcast. In this episode Marla speaks to me about pervertables, how you can use them to improve your sex life and tips and techniques for improving virtual sex.      Marla Renee Stewart, MA is a professional sex, intimacy and relationship coach, sexologist, and sex educator. Not only is she a Lecturer at Clayton State University, she is also the Co-Founder of the Sex Down South Conference and the Sexual Liberation Collective.     She also created the sexual education company, Velvet Lips, 9 years ago to empower people of all ages to embrace, educate and enjoy their sexuality and their sexual lives. She has studied human sexuality for more than 18 years at San Francisco State University and Georgia State University, respectively, and has expert knowledge in a wide variety of subjects. She has published academic articles and continues to do sexuality research.     She has conducted workshops at conferences, not-for-profit and private organizations, and has been featured on many radio shows, television shows, documentaries, books, magazines and has been invited to speak at Universities around the world. She also sits on the board for the SPARK Reproductive Justice Now! and Diverse Sexualities Research and Education Institute.     In This Episode You Will Hear:     What is a pervertable?   Incorporating everyday items into your sex life   Which items work and don’t work for anal pleasure  Being more creative sexually whilst on lockdown   Using music to enhance your sexual pleasure   Learning to bring the sense of adventure to your home   Cultivating sexual confidence   Overcoming layers of shame and guilt that might be getting in the way   How you can up level your sexual pleasure even if it’s a good level  Tips & techniques for improving virtual sex         Find Marla here:   http://velvetlipsllc.com/   Pre-order Marla's book: https://www.velvetlipssexed.com/shop  Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested in booking a video counseling session with Dr. Moali: https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

14 Huhti 202025min

Welcome to episode 171 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Dr. Jess O’ Reilly to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Jess speaks with me about seductive communication, keeping things sexy while separated and cultivating your core erotic feelings.     Dr. Jess O’Reilly began working as a sexuality counselor in 2001 and she has never looked back! Her PhD studies involved the development of training programs in sex education for teachers and her education and undergraduate degrees focused on equity and sexual diversity.     Her training includes courses in counselling skills, healthy relationships, resolving sexual concerns, sex education, clinical sexology, sexual development, sex and disability, group therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.     Alongside her academic and television credits, Dr. Jess is also an accomplished author with three best-selling titles. Her latest, The New Sex Bible, has received rave reviews from professionals and clients alike and her first book Hot Sex Tips,Tricks and Licks is in its fourth print! Look for her monthly column in Post City or catch her on Tuesday mornings on Global TV’s The Morning Show, Wednesdays on 102.1 The Edge and Saturdays on PlayboyTV.     Dr. Jess’ work experience includes contracts with school boards, social services agencies, community health organizations and private corporations. A sought-after speaker, her sessions always attract a full-house at conferences and entertainment events alike.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     Taking a look at seductive communication   Assessing our own strengths and weaknesses around seduction   Exploring sexting and teledildonecs  Looking at and understanding the best platform for you to use   Keeping things sexy whilst separated   Making the most of sex toys   Understanding what your partner is most receptive to   Cultivating your core erotic feelings   The need to change our lifestyles to have better sex  Making scheduled sex work   Tips for busy couples who want to re-kindle their sex lives         Find Dr. Jess here:   https://www.sexwithdrjess.com     Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested in booking a video counseling session with Dr. Moali: https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

7 Huhti 202037min

Welcome to episode 170 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome back Martha Kauppi, LMFT to the podcast. In this episode Martha speaks to us again about polyamory, why opening a relationship doesn’t have to mean separation, how there are different types of polyamory and the importance of self-regulation throughout this process.     Martha Kauppi, LMFT, is an educator, AASECT-certified sex therapist and supervisor, and AAMFT-approved supervisor. She specializes in relational sex therapy, including alternative family structures, and trains therapists to work effectively at the intersection of sex issues and relationship challenges.     Martha’s mission is to make sex a safe topic in therapy rooms everywhere by developing unique educational experiences and immediately-applicable learning materials for therapists. She has a book coming out in August 2020 about working effectively with clinical challenges related to polyamory.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     How can someone know if polyamory is right for them?   Why opening a relationship doesn’t have to mean separation   Looking at the different structures and dynamics of polyamory   How there is different types of polyamory  Is there a customary way of going polyamorous?   Developing meaningful relationships within polyamory  Using apps such as Ok Cupid to meet other polyamorous people   Approaching the other partner around going polyamorous   The importance of self-regulation throughout this process       Find Martha here:   https://instituteforrelationalintimacy.com   http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/02/26/does-polyamory-work     Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested to book a video counseling with Dr. Moali   https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

31 Maalis 202042min